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Discussion What's actually the best relationship strategy for a narcissist (for their own long-term benefit)?
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Not asking what narcissists usually do (charm, control, discard, pair with empaths for easy supply)

What strategy actually serves the narcissist best for their outcomes?
Any real experiences/examples? or some study?

Option 1: Lock down a pretty, high status empath. Charm her, then unapologetically manipulate her, validation, sex, attention, while she forgives everything.

Option 2: Cheat/multi-date. Keep primaries for image/long-term, side roaster for variety/excitement & back-up.

Option 3: Go against instincts, act 'normal.'


anyone who studied this or observed it irl, what do you think?
 

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logically it should be option 3
 

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Option 2 is law as long as ur very careful. Hate to invoke the chad sigmas name but good accessible example is Patrick Bateman. Had his girlfriend that was high status and he just used her to fit in, but was fucking hella prostitutes and indluging in self pleasure on the side. Very immoral but is best way to derive joy from all facets of life if ur truely a narcissist, MARK AS SOLUTION
 
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logically it should be option 3
I don't know how that's logical
narcissism can't reallly be changed, it's genetic
that'd just feel too irritating for narcs because of extreme sensitivity for criticism & boundaries
 

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I don't know how that's logical
narcissism can't reallly be changed, it's genetic
that'd just feel too irritating for narcs because of extreme sensitivity for criticism & boundaries
then maybe option 1
i genuinely can't see how anyone thinks option 2 is good in any way
 

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then maybe option 1
i genuinely can't see how anyone thinks option 2 is good in any way
Dopamine maxxing and status maxxing
 
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Option 2 is law as long as ur very careful. Hate to invoke the chad sigmas name but good accessible example is Patrick Bateman. Had his girlfriend that was high status and he just used her to fit in, but was fucking hella prostitutes and indluging in self pleasure on the side. Very immoral but is best way to derive joy from all facets of life if ur truely a narcissist, MARK AS SOLUTION
So just cheat with prostitutes or sluts or dating women of same caliber like a roaster?
 
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i genuinely can't see how anyone thinks option 2 is good in any way
options to fall back to, less dependence on 1 girl,
girls might fight over you when they find out about other girls, crazy validation & dopamine
 

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So just cheat with prostitutes or sluts or dating women of same caliber like a roaster?
To the public eye ur a fantastic boyfriend dating. "good girl" of the same or higher status as you, but behind closed doors you're fucking sluts or prositutes (sluts are better tho cuz paying for sex is weak as fuck unless ur genuinely subhuman), and farming dopamine off them.
 
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To the public eye ur a fantastic boyfriend dating. "good girl" of the same or higher status as you, but behind closed doors you're fucking sluts or prositutes (sluts are better tho cuz paying for sex is weak as fuck unless ur genuinely subhuman), and farming dopamine off them.
but the girl cries about your bad behavior and how treat her like shit, to her friends,
you can't really do much because it's the truth?

and hiding girls is pretty hard, unless in different area.

tho this sluts one seems feasible
 

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but the girl cries about your bad behavior and how treat her like shit, to her friends,
you can't really do much because it's the truth?
I mean if you seem kind and perfect enough superficially the friends can think that she is the abusive and manipulative one
 
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I mean if you seem kind and perfect enough superficially the friends can think that she is the abusive and manipulative one
yeah but what if she just keeps crying to them every time you do something
 

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yeah but what if she just keeps crying to them every time you do something
You need to start blackmailing her or instill some fear onto her
 
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Take some naked pics of her and threaten to leak them, start slowly becoming more violent towards her, try to seem trustful enough so she would tell you some of her secrets, traumas or insecurities and use those later against her and if she gets angry about your abuse try to make yourself look like the victim saying that you are just insecure and overprotective because you have been lonely your whole life without any connection etc
 
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Take some naked pics of her and threaten to leak them, start slowly becoming more violent towards her, try to seem trustful enough so she would tell you some of her secrets, traumas or insecurities and use those later against her and if she gets angry about your abuse try to make yourself look like the victim saying that you are just insecure and overprotective because you have been lonely your whole life without any connection etc
[UWSL]it's just possible for vulnerable or leach type of narcs, not grandiose & [/UWSL][UWSL]posh[/UWSL][UWSL] ones[/UWSL]
 

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[UWSL]it's just possible for vulnerable or leach type of narcs, not grandiose & [/UWSL][UWSL]posh[/UWSL][UWSL] ones[/UWSL]
Anyone is capable of playing a role
 
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Take some naked pics of her and threaten to leak them, start slowly becoming more violent towards her, try to seem trustful enough so she would tell you some of her secrets, traumas or insecurities and use those later against her and if she gets angry about your abuse try to make yourself look like the victim saying that you are just insecure and overprotective because you have been lonely your whole life without any connection etc
what if she uses that as an opportunity to promote an OF
 

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all girls have a secret horny side to them
horny for her boyfriend
& being a whore showing her body to bunch of horny subhumans are 2 different things
 

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all girls have a secret horny side to them
There is a difference between being horny and being a shameless whore showing off her naked body
 

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Not asking what narcissists usually do (charm, control, discard, pair with empaths for easy supply)

What strategy actually serves the narcissist best for their outcomes?
Any real experiences/examples? or some study?

Option 1: Lock down a pretty, high status empath. Charm her, then unapologetically manipulate her, validation, sex, attention, while she forgives everything.

Option 2: Cheat/multi-date. Keep primaries for image/long-term, side roaster for variety/excitement & back-up.

Option 3: Go against instincts, act 'normal.'


anyone who studied this or observed it irl, what do you think?
Maybe be normal and not cheat on your girl?

Is it this hard for people to stay monogamous holy shit
 

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Lock down a pretty, high status empath.
these dont rly exist tbh. only larpers (of being empath). pretty empath women are never high status, high status women inherently trample over others to reach said status
 
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these dont rly exist tbh. only larpers (of being empath). pretty empath women are never high status, high status women inherently trample over others to reach said status
it's genes & parenting in childhood
you're just wrong, beauty and status don't impact this in the negative way.
 

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it's genes & parenting in childhood
you're just wrong, beauty and status don't impact this in the negative way.
Have you considered this might be why you’re on the forums and not because you’re sub5
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Have you considered this might be why you’re on the forums and not because you’re sub5
Are you implying I'm on this forum out of self-pity? I don't have problems with dating, lmao.
I'm here because I can freely shitpost about the glory of crime etc.
and calling people "retarded subhumans" on this forum dopamine-mogs most normie activities.
 

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Are you implying I'm on this forum out of self-pity? I don't have problems with dating, lmao.
I'm here because I can freely shitpost about the glory of crime etc.
and calling people "retarded subhumans" on this forum dopamine-mogs most normie activities.
Jarvis insert “I guess bro” meme
 

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Not asking what narcissists usually do (charm, control, discard, pair with empaths for easy supply)

What strategy actually serves the narcissist best for their outcomes?
Any real experiences/examples? or some study?

Option 1: Lock down a pretty, high status empath. Charm her, then unapologetically manipulate her, validation, sex, attention, while she forgives everything.

Option 2: Cheat/multi-date. Keep primaries for image/long-term, side roaster for variety/excitement & back-up.

Option 3: Go against instincts, act 'normal.'


anyone who studied this or observed it irl, what do you think?
Act NT bro trust no girl is into your true character
 

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Probably works best for younger guys, older women start becoming more serious about finding a "normal" partner.
 
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hat strategy actually serves the narcissist best for their outcomes?
Any real experiences/examples? or some study?
I would say it would depend on if they have any other mental disorder because not all people with npd are abusive. Most people with just npd cant keep a partner because they dont see the person their with as equal or worthy of them so they end of leaving(which would be option 1). Now if they have some other disorders along side ndp which would makes them more violent then its probaly 1 or 2.
 

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Not asking what narcissists usually do (charm, control, discard, pair with empaths for easy supply)

What strategy actually serves the narcissist best for their outcomes?
Any real experiences/examples? or some study?

Option 1: Lock down a pretty, high status empath. Charm her, then unapologetically manipulate her, validation, sex, attention, while she forgives everything.

Option 2: Cheat/multi-date. Keep primaries for image/long-term, side roaster for variety/excitement & back-up.

Option 3: Go against instincts, act 'normal.'


anyone who studied this or observed it irl, what do you think?
Your corny ngl, as soon as you find the right one you gonna stop being narcissistic. Narcissism stops when oxytocin enters the conversation.
 

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All the methods really only work if you MOG,

But a decent method is, getting close with her friends but in a friendly way.

Be super nice to them but not in a cheating way but in a way that will make her thing "Wait does he find her more attractive ?" this will motivate her to put it more effort and view her friend as a competition. and she will want to earn your respect even more.
But the thing with this method is that, if she points if out and say's stop or were done. You can say "being nice is bad ????" so its makes her look crazy, but If she retaliates with actually ending the relationship or going somewhere. That is an indication she already has someone more attractive on her phone hitting her up anyways and she jus needed n excuse to follow through with it. So basically it was over before it began so you kinda need to mog for this method or be confident.

Another thing you could is whenever you guy's are fighting, jus walk away instead of engaging, this will signal to her "wait is there another bitch around that he can simply jus walk away n talk to ? I need to watch myself n never get in a fight with him again cause one of these days he going to do it foreal" this is the thought process you want her to have. n it works well.

Now for cheating, only contact girls she doesnt have mutual relations too, and they have to live 30 min + away from her as well.
if she asks for phone simply saying "I dont trust anyone with my phone due to my phone being hacked and stolen one time so I get paranoid"
using the snapchat remix method to make it look like your home when you send her snap when your at the girls home.
she will never suspect you of cheating, and when she tried to call text" my parents are arguing rn, cant awsner" n boom your in the clear
 

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