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[Parsival]

I already got home. When I arrived at her place (an apartment her dad rents), I had to use the keys she gave me to get in. I wanted to surprise her, and when I walked in, she was on her bed crying again.

I went to hug her and hoped I could handle the situation well and find the right words for her. At first she didn’t want to say anything again, but I decided to try to make her laugh (I HAVE NO IDEA HOW I MANAGED TO MAKE HER LAUGH, I’M TERRIBLE AT HUMOR). After that, we started talking more calmly about random things.

But I knew I had to address what was actually affecting her. I didn’t go there just to make her laugh and leave. So I tried to find a way to bring it up.

I asked her if I could see the profile of the “pred” that was messaging her on Facebook yesterday (she had already blocked him), and it was just some random countryside guy, nothing special (preds are pretty common here).

Then I asked her what her dad had told her, and I opened WhatsApp to check. She got sad again. It was the messages from her dad about not getting into the first stage of university admission, and she started crying again. Then she told me her mom had said similar things, and when I checked her phone, I saw her mom’s call in the call log.

And that’s when I had to talk to her:

Spoiler: What did I tell her:

Look Anny, your mom and your dad are putting a lot of pressure on you. You have to be the main pillar of your household [she’s the one who cooks, cleans, and does those things at home]. You have to take on a mother-like role for your siblings because your mom isn’t really present and doesn’t fulfill that role. You also had to handle your responsibilities as a student and as a teenager, then deal with your parents’ divorce, and on top of all that, now you have to go through this and prepare for a university admission exam.

I know they’re your parents, but you also need to understand that you shouldn’t feel like you’ve failed or that you’ve “disappointed them,” like you told me you felt. Unlike other students who took the admission exam, they don’t carry the same burdens you do. They come from private schools, with fewer problems at home, and they don’t have to be everything you have to be. Don’t feel bad for not getting in on the first try.

After that, I looked into the next admission stages (there are two more, one next week and another after that, I think). I checked her scores: she got 300 on the admission exam and 950 from her school grades.

So I tried to explain to her that even if her exam score wasn’t great, she could still get in because of her school grades. The first stage is usually for people who have both high exam and school scores, so she shouldn’t worry too much.

I tried to calm her down, but she still had that fear. I kept explaining that she’ll most likely get in during the second stage because of her grades. I managed to calm her a bit, and after that we just kept talking and relaxing.

Later, I had to leave because I had already stayed longer than I told my mom (I told her I would only take about 30 minutes). I noticed she hadn’t eaten, so I tried to get her some ice cream and cook something for her before leaving.

When I got home, my mom got mad at me again because instead of the 30 minutes I told her, I was gone for almost 2 hours or more idk.

A few moments ago she texted me saying today just isn’t her day… because she dropped the ice cream.

I can’t go out again to buy another one, so I guess that’ll have to be tomorrow.

I’m honestly surprised, because like I said in a previous thread, I used to make girls cry unintentionally when talking to them by bringing up sensitive topics without realizing it (my ND situations), and I didn’t know how to calm them down. Now I’m starting to see what I’m capable of, and I’m surprised by how much I’ve learned.

PD: She was completely alone at home today. Her middle brother was at his girlfriend’s place, and her younger one was at an aunt’s house.

 

[Skulloute]

I already got home. When I arrived at her place (an apartment her dad rents), I had to use the keys she gave me to get in. I wanted to surprise her, and when I walked in, she was on her bed crying again.

I went to hug her and hoped I could handle the situation well and find the right words for her. At first she didn’t want to say anything again, but I decided to try to make her laugh (I HAVE NO IDEA HOW I MANAGED TO MAKE HER LAUGH, I’M TERRIBLE AT HUMOR). After that, we started talking more calmly about random things.

But I knew I had to address what was actually affecting her. I didn’t go there just to make her laugh and leave. So I tried to find a way to bring it up.

I asked her if I could see the profile of the “pred” that was messaging her on Facebook yesterday (she had already blocked him), and it was just some random countryside guy, nothing special (preds are pretty common here).

Then I asked her what her dad had told her, and I opened WhatsApp to check. She got sad again. It was the messages from her dad about not getting into the first stage of university admission, and she started crying again. Then she told me her mom had said similar things, and when I checked her phone, I saw her mom’s call in the call log.

And that’s when I had to talk to her:

Spoiler: What did I tell her:

Look Anny, your mom and your dad are putting a lot of pressure on you. You have to be the main pillar of your household [she’s the one who cooks, cleans, and does those things at home]. You have to take on a mother-like role for your siblings because your mom isn’t really present and doesn’t fulfill that role. You also had to handle your responsibilities as a student and as a teenager, then deal with your parents’ divorce, and on top of all that, now you have to go through this and prepare for a university admission exam.

I know they’re your parents, but you also need to understand that you shouldn’t feel like you’ve failed or that you’ve “disappointed them,” like you told me you felt. Unlike other students who took the admission exam, they don’t carry the same burdens you do. They come from private schools, with fewer problems at home, and they don’t have to be everything you have to be. Don’t feel bad for not getting in on the first try.

After that, I looked into the next admission stages (there are two more, one next week and another after that, I think). I checked her scores: she got 300 on the admission exam and 950 from her school grades.

So I tried to explain to her that even if her exam score wasn’t great, she could still get in because of her school grades. The first stage is usually for people who have both high exam and school scores, so she shouldn’t worry too much.

I tried to calm her down, but she still had that fear. I kept explaining that she’ll most likely get in during the second stage because of her grades. I managed to calm her a bit, and after that we just kept talking and relaxing.

Later, I had to leave because I had already stayed longer than I told my mom (I told her I would only take about 30 minutes). I noticed she hadn’t eaten, so I tried to get her some ice cream and cook something for her before leaving.

When I got home, my mom got mad at me again because instead of the 30 minutes I told her, I was gone for almost 2 hours or more idk.

A few moments ago she texted me saying today just isn’t her day… because she dropped the ice cream.

I can’t go out again to buy another one, so I guess that’ll have to be tomorrow.

I’m honestly surprised, because like I said in a previous thread, I used to make girls cry unintentionally when talking to them by bringing up sensitive topics without realizing it (my ND situations), and I didn’t know how to calm them down. Now I’m starting to see what I’m capable of, and I’m surprised by how much I’ve learned.

PD: She was completely alone at home today. Her older brother was at his girlfriend’s place, and her younger one was at an aunt’s house.

Type shit bro.

 

[Parsival]

Summary:
I went to her house again because she was having another emotional breakdown, this time due to not getting into the first stage of university admission and pressure from her parents. When I arrived, she was alone and crying, so I tried to calm her down—first by making her laugh, then by talking seriously with her.

I explained that she’s dealing with a lot of responsibilities (home, siblings, family issues, school) and shouldn’t feel bad for not getting in on the first try, especially compared to others who don’t carry the same burdens. I also looked into the next admission stages and gave her some reassurance based on her grades.

I managed to calm her down a bit, we spent some time more relaxed, and then I left. I ended up staying longer than I told my mom and got scolded when I got home. Later, she texted me saying her day was still bad.

Honestly, I’m surprised at myself—before, I didn’t know how to handle these situations and would even make girls cry unintentionally, but now I’m starting to see how much I’ve improved and what I’m capable of.

 

[sensitive sapphire]

not tapped in the lore and dnr but if its good news im happy for you, if bad im terribly sorry