Struggling with Social Anxiety (1 Viewer)

[It’sOver4Hydro]

My whole life I have struggled making friends, talking to others, eye contact, talking to the opposite gender (girls I’m not even attracted to) or my gender for the matter of fact. I’ve never been rejected because I’ve never even had the confidence to even go up to a girl. My whole life I have had 2 friends. People that somewhat enjoy my company. (they don’t ignore me 100% of the time)

I’ve have never been I haven’t ever been diagnosed with asd or autism, etc. but it is quite clear that I am different to everyone else. I talk to my self constantly, I reenact fake or past scenarios in my head. I can’t comprehend any thing to do with socialising. I am hyper fixated on certain things for up to a month and the next day I couldn’t give two shits. Going out in public (going to school or the grocery store) is quite frightening to me. All the eyes of other people looking at me, not knowing what they think. Do they think I’m a fuck tard or a hideous monstrosity that has just crawled out from under a bridge.

The past couple of years I have been trying a more “fake it till you make it” approach to socialising and being out in public. I observe what Popular people and others around me do. I then mimic their actions but this doesn’t work. Every friendship or conversation I have feels fake and hollow.

I have made this thread to seek answers. Should I seek intervention from a certain medication or see a therapist? Or is being ostracised everyday something that I will never be able to change, and or something that i just have to overcome?

If any of you out there have been in a similar situation to me and have found solutions or had help with this issue I would be ecstatic to hear your feedback back.

 

[GigaChud271]

your cranium is recessed, thats it

 

[hoodsickle]

To put it lightly there isn't anything you can do apart from talk to people and make friends, you can take drugs to make it easier of youre really nd

 

[Judenbänker]

your cranium is recessed, thats it

cranium ≠ craniofacial bones I doubt his cranium is recessed

 

[Godveil Heir]

dnr
but copypasting my answer from a similar post:

Because you're in a weird echo chamber called "Blackpill"
which glorifies hedonism and socialization far more than the mainstream.
It also promotes the typical idea of "muh Chad has more friends, and the incel is a friendless loser."

Normies are fine with not having a strong friend group and don’t think about it when they're socializing.
You attach too much value to it and become desperate for their validation, while others are fine with losing friends because a normie mind sees friends as a useless waste of time instead of the ultimate sign of self-worth.

Unless you are genuinely neurodivergent (diagnosed with autism), and not just struggling with poor social skills caused by spending too much time online, as some people suggest here, you can easily fit in with the normies and have a decent social life. You just need to interact with them more and tolerate the initial feeling of social inadequacy, which will last at most a few months. You can use some medical assistance like alprazolam, SSRIs, ecstasy, etc. to get through it.
Afterward, it will come naturally.
Humans are wired to socialize, it's not some rare talent.


hope this helps

 

[Biacromial]

My whole life I have struggled making friends, talking to others, eye contact, talking to the opposite gender (girls I’m not even attracted to) or my gender for the matter of fact. I’ve never been rejected because I’ve never even had the confidence to even go up to a girl. My whole life I have had 2 friends. People that somewhat enjoy my company. (they don’t ignore me 100% of the time)

I’ve have never been I haven’t ever been diagnosed with asd or autism, etc. but it is quite clear that I am different to everyone else. I talk to my self constantly, I reenact fake or past scenarios in my head. I can’t comprehend any thing to do with socialising. I am hyper fixated on certain things for up to a month and the next day I couldn’t give two shits. Going out in public (going to school or the grocery store) is quite frightening to me. All the eyes of other people looking at me, not knowing what they think. Do they think I’m a fuck tard or a hideous monstrosity that has just crawled out from under a bridge.

The past couple of years I have been trying a more “fake it till you make it” approach to socialising and being out in public. I observe what Popular people and others around me do. I then mimic their actions but this doesn’t work. Every friendship or conversation I have feels fake and hollow.

I have made this thread to seek answers. Should I seek intervention from a certain medication or see a therapist? Or is being ostracised everyday something that I will never be able to change, and or something that i just have to overcome?

If any of you out there have been in a similar situation to me and have found solutions or had help with this issue I would be ecstatic to hear your feedback back.

take pregab and cold approach

 

[Circadex]

 just LDAR and never have conversations outside your head

 

[HolyThread]

My whole life I have struggled making friends, talking to others, eye contact, talking to the opposite gender (girls I’m not even attracted to) or my gender for the matter of fact. I’ve never been rejected because I’ve never even had the confidence to even go up to a girl. My whole life I have had 2 friends. People that somewhat enjoy my company. (they don’t ignore me 100% of the time)

I’ve have never been I haven’t ever been diagnosed with asd or autism, etc. but it is quite clear that I am different to everyone else. I talk to my self constantly, I reenact fake or past scenarios in my head. I can’t comprehend any thing to do with socialising. I am hyper fixated on certain things for up to a month and the next day I couldn’t give two shits. Going out in public (going to school or the grocery store) is quite frightening to me. All the eyes of other people looking at me, not knowing what they think. Do they think I’m a fuck tard or a hideous monstrosity that has just crawled out from under a bridge.

The past couple of years I have been trying a more “fake it till you make it” approach to socialising and being out in public. I observe what Popular people and others around me do. I then mimic their actions but this doesn’t work. Every friendship or conversation I have feels fake and hollow.

I have made this thread to seek answers. Should I seek intervention from a certain medication or see a therapist? Or is being ostracised everyday something that I will never be able to change, and or something that i just have to overcome?

If any of you out there have been in a similar situation to me and have found solutions or had help with this issue I would be ecstatic to hear your feedback back.

I feel you man.. i only got the friends i made as a kid. as i grew up i started developing social anxiety for some reason i know how painful it is wanting to socialise with new people or people you just know but just not being able to do it

 

[Grif]

dnr
but copypasting my answer from a similar post:

dnr, he literally explained that he’s actually nd and that has nothing to do with looks nigga

 

[Godveil Heir]

dnr, he literally explained that he’s actually nd and that has nothing to do with looks nigga

wasn't even talking about looks like you retarded aspies do

 

[Grif]

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wasn't even talking about looks like you retarded aspies do

“It also promotes the typical idea of "muh Chad has more friends, and the incel is a friendless loser."”

Even chads can have social anxiety and be friendless, it’s a mental thing other than a looks thing, literally a mental illness , drugs will only help short term, you can never be on drugs your entire life and there’s no cure, all the things listed won’t change shit

 

[Godveil Heir]

“It also promotes the typical idea of "muh Chad has more friends, and the incel is a friendless loser."”

Even chads can have social anxiety and be friendless, it’s a mental thing other than a looks thing, literally a mental illness , drugs will only help short term, you can never be on drugs your entire life and there’s no cure, all the things listed won’t change shit

 

[Grif]

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Very mature response

 

[Godveil Heir]

Very mature response

Thanks bhai