arudj
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There is one girl that my friend (friend 1) started liking ~9 months ago. He was telling me about it and I didn't like her until ~2–3 months ago. Then I started liking her too and wanted to approach her at school but I wasn't confident enough and I knew my friend would be very mad at me if I did that. Then my friend had a short conversation once and nothing happened out of it so I decided that I'm gonna talk to her too 5 days later. She didn't reject me but I just left respectfully, it was a very bad conversation. After that, the guy isn't friends with me anymore. Then I told another friend (friend 2) that I wanna talk to her and that there likely won't be anything between her and friend 1 and he agreed and then told me not to talk to him again since he says I'm a bad guy for wanting to step in again while friend 1 and the girl are talking. There is another girl (girl 2) I wanna approach and she is easier to approach since she has nothing to do with this situation. I don't like her a lot though while I like girl 1 a lot. I'm not confident enough to approach girl 1 again and I wanna approach girl 2 first to build confidence and be better with girls. It's been 3 weeks and I couldn't get myself to approach her, I get too scared. There were a few times when I was possibly ready to wait for her and talk to her, but I didn't see her then. I also made a dukb decision to get a buzzcut (with a high skinfade too) and I look way worse and less masculine so I gotta wear a hoodie, but I feel less confident then when I had hair, even with the hoodie.

