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Over Personality matters.

Parsival

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Ever since I can remember, I thought it didn’t really matter that much. Not because of those videos saying looks are everything, but because of my own experience. Even with my “bad” personality, I could still reach a good social position. So I thought it was just my looks carrying me, and since that day (back in school), I accepted that personality didn’t matter. When I got to high school, that idea only got stronger.

Despite having bad experiences with girls who only wanted my attention—and me treating them badly—they still wanted to be around me. What? I thought. It made no sense. If anything, they should’ve stayed away from me, not tried to get closer. But they didn’t.

Then GAVA came along. Another girl I thought I attracted just because of my looks. Another girl affected by my negative personality. She was the one who made me realize something was wrong—not just in how I treated others, but in who I was. I was never brave enough to do what I actually wanted to do.

Then Anny came. Someone who went through something similar, but this time I didn’t want to make the same mistake. And I didn’t. I worked on myself, I tried to forget, to forgive myself for what I did with GAVA. But even if it sounds bad, I could never stop thinking about her, even while being with Anny.

Tomorrow we’ll have been together for 8 months. 8 months full of experiences I’m grateful for. But in those 8 months… actually, since I met GAVA, there hasn’t been a single day where I didn’t think about her. Not in a romantic way—at least not anymore—but like a memory that follows me.

There were days I wanted to see her, even from far away. But I was afraid of one thing: that if I saw her again, I would make the same mistake I made 2 years ago—lower my gaze, avoid her, feel intimidated.

And that fear… was exactly why I was scared of seeing her again.

AND THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED.
2 YEARS. 2 FUCKING YEARS… AND I MADE THE SAME MISTAKE AGAIN.


I lowered my gaze.

She wanted me to greet her. She did the same thing she did 2 years ago—trying to get my attention, trying to make me notice her.

And I failed again.

I avoided looking at her.
I avoided everything.

Don’t get me wrong—this isn’t about wanting to cheat on my girlfriend. I know most of you don’t care about that anyway. It’s just that… after 2 years, I felt the same again. The same fear. The same weakness.

Everything I did to improve myself…
All these 2 years trying to fix things…
Trying to build enough confidence just to look up and say hi…

It meant nothing.

I felt like the same coward I was back then.

Like when she tried to talk to me and I wanted to respond… but fear took over.

Damn it.
 

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  • #2
ye it matters, u just have to be normal, and ur autistic
 
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Dnr after like beginning and shit, plus water :banderas:
 

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dnr and yea the girls in class hate me cuz of my personality and like the funny dudes
 

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Ever since I can remember, I thought it didn’t really matter that much. Not because of those videos saying looks are everything, but because of my own experience. Even with my “bad” personality, I could still reach a good social position. So I thought it was just my looks carrying me, and since that day (back in school), I accepted that personality didn’t matter. When I got to high school, that idea only got stronger.

Despite having bad experiences with girls who only wanted my attention—and me treating them badly—they still wanted to be around me. What? I thought. It made no sense. If anything, they should’ve stayed away from me, not tried to get closer. But they didn’t.

Then GAVA came along. Another girl I thought I attracted just because of my looks. Another girl affected by my negative personality. She was the one who made me realize something was wrong—not just in how I treated others, but in who I was. I was never brave enough to do what I actually wanted to do.

Then Anny came. Someone who went through something similar, but this time I didn’t want to make the same mistake. And I didn’t. I worked on myself, I tried to forget, to forgive myself for what I did with GAVA. But even if it sounds bad, I could never stop thinking about her, even while being with Anny.

Tomorrow we’ll have been together for 8 months. 8 months full of experiences I’m grateful for. But in those 8 months… actually, since I met GAVA, there hasn’t been a single day where I didn’t think about her. Not in a romantic way—at least not anymore—but like a memory that follows me.

There were days I wanted to see her, even from far away. But I was afraid of one thing: that if I saw her again, I would make the same mistake I made 2 years ago—lower my gaze, avoid her, feel intimidated.

And that fear… was exactly why I was scared of seeing her again.

AND THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED.
2 YEARS. 2 FUCKING YEARS… AND I MADE THE SAME MISTAKE AGAIN.


I lowered my gaze.

She wanted me to greet her. She did the same thing she did 2 years ago—trying to get my attention, trying to make me notice her.

And I failed again.

I avoided looking at her.
I avoided everything.

Don’t get me wrong—this isn’t about wanting to cheat on my girlfriend. I know most of you don’t care about that anyway. It’s just that… after 2 years, I felt the same again. The same fear. The same weakness.

Everything I did to improve myself…
All these 2 years trying to fix things…
Trying to build enough confidence just to look up and say hi…

It meant nothing.

I felt like the same coward I was back then.

Like when she tried to talk to me and I wanted to respond… but fear took over.

Damn it.
Damn. Thats on you though. You couldn't even bring yourself to say hi? Its okay bhai maybe next time
 
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Damn. Thats on you though. You couldn't even bring yourself to say hi? Its okay bhai maybe next time
Theres no next time after this
 

Parsival

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dnr and yea the girls in class hate me cuz of my personality and like the funny dudes
That doesn’t make any sense in relation to the thread
Damn. Thats on you though. You couldn't even bring yourself to say hi? Its okay bhai maybe next time
Everyone who knows about my situation keeps asking me that—like, “can’t you even say hi?” The answer is no. And it’s not something simple, I don’t even know why… and it’s only with her. With everyone else, I don’t care—I can say whatever I want and it doesn’t affect me.
Theres no next time after this
I don't think so—she always gives me opportunities, if she’s still the same as when I met her two years ago.
 

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i aint reading all that bro
 

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Ever since I can remember, I thought it didn’t really matter that much. Not because of those videos saying looks are everything, but because of my own experience. Even with my “bad” personality, I could still reach a good social position. So I thought it was just my looks carrying me, and since that day (back in school), I accepted that personality didn’t matter. When I got to high school, that idea only got stronger.

Despite having bad experiences with girls who only wanted my attention—and me treating them badly—they still wanted to be around me. What? I thought. It made no sense. If anything, they should’ve stayed away from me, not tried to get closer. But they didn’t.

Then GAVA came along. Another girl I thought I attracted just because of my looks. Another girl affected by my negative personality. She was the one who made me realize something was wrong—not just in how I treated others, but in who I was. I was never brave enough to do what I actually wanted to do.

Then Anny came. Someone who went through something similar, but this time I didn’t want to make the same mistake. And I didn’t. I worked on myself, I tried to forget, to forgive myself for what I did with GAVA. But even if it sounds bad, I could never stop thinking about her, even while being with Anny.

Tomorrow we’ll have been together for 8 months. 8 months full of experiences I’m grateful for. But in those 8 months… actually, since I met GAVA, there hasn’t been a single day where I didn’t think about her. Not in a romantic way—at least not anymore—but like a memory that follows me.

There were days I wanted to see her, even from far away. But I was afraid of one thing: that if I saw her again, I would make the same mistake I made 2 years ago—lower my gaze, avoid her, feel intimidated.

And that fear… was exactly why I was scared of seeing her again.

AND THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED.
2 YEARS. 2 FUCKING YEARS… AND I MADE THE SAME MISTAKE AGAIN.


I lowered my gaze.

She wanted me to greet her. She did the same thing she did 2 years ago—trying to get my attention, trying to make me notice her.

And I failed again.

I avoided looking at her.
I avoided everything.

Don’t get me wrong—this isn’t about wanting to cheat on my girlfriend. I know most of you don’t care about that anyway. It’s just that… after 2 years, I felt the same again. The same fear. The same weakness.

Everything I did to improve myself…
All these 2 years trying to fix things…
Trying to build enough confidence just to look up and say hi…

It meant nothing.

I felt like the same coward I was back then.

Like when she tried to talk to me and I wanted to respond… but fear took over.

Damn it.
Doing backstroke in this ocean of a thread
 
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water
 

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Ever since I can remember, I thought it didn’t really matter that much. Not because of those videos saying looks are everything, but because of my own experience. Even with my “bad” personality, I could still reach a good social position. So I thought it was just my looks carrying me, and since that day (back in school), I accepted that personality didn’t matter. When I got to high school, that idea only got stronger.

Despite having bad experiences with girls who only wanted my attention—and me treating them badly—they still wanted to be around me. What? I thought. It made no sense. If anything, they should’ve stayed away from me, not tried to get closer. But they didn’t.

Then GAVA came along. Another girl I thought I attracted just because of my looks. Another girl affected by my negative personality. She was the one who made me realize something was wrong—not just in how I treated others, but in who I was. I was never brave enough to do what I actually wanted to do.

Then Anny came. Someone who went through something similar, but this time I didn’t want to make the same mistake. And I didn’t. I worked on myself, I tried to forget, to forgive myself for what I did with GAVA. But even if it sounds bad, I could never stop thinking about her, even while being with Anny.

Tomorrow we’ll have been together for 8 months. 8 months full of experiences I’m grateful for. But in those 8 months… actually, since I met GAVA, there hasn’t been a single day where I didn’t think about her. Not in a romantic way—at least not anymore—but like a memory that follows me.

There were days I wanted to see her, even from far away. But I was afraid of one thing: that if I saw her again, I would make the same mistake I made 2 years ago—lower my gaze, avoid her, feel intimidated.

And that fear… was exactly why I was scared of seeing her again.

AND THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED.
2 YEARS. 2 FUCKING YEARS… AND I MADE THE SAME MISTAKE AGAIN.


I lowered my gaze.

She wanted me to greet her. She did the same thing she did 2 years ago—trying to get my attention, trying to make me notice her.

And I failed again.

I avoided looking at her.
I avoided everything.

Don’t get me wrong—this isn’t about wanting to cheat on my girlfriend. I know most of you don’t care about that anyway. It’s just that… after 2 years, I felt the same again. The same fear. The same weakness.

Everything I did to improve myself…
All these 2 years trying to fix things…
Trying to build enough confidence just to look up and say hi…

It meant nothing.

I felt like the same coward I was back then.

Like when she tried to talk to me and I wanted to respond… but fear took over.

Damn it.
dnr man dont upload this threads here please
 

Parsival

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Doing backstroke in this ocean of a thread
What are you even talking about? This thread is just me sharing an experience, not stating something obvious everyone already knows. Damn retard
:gosling:
 

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dnr man dont upload this threads here please
dnr him dnr there dnr that, nigga shut the fuck up you joined in april "megamaxxer" your a fucking nt loser tryna fit in as nd 😡😡😡😡❤️🙏🏿
 

lltnPatatoSideOGU@mod&5ft

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What are you even talking about? This thread is just me sharing an experience, not stating something obvious everyone already knows. Damn retard
:gosling:
ur shit ai nigga, you didnt have the time to write that shit up in this website, why we lying 🙏😂😂
 

Parsival

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ur shit ai nigga, you didnt have the time to write that shit up in this website, why we lying 🙏😂😂
Nigga I already talked about this shit. I use that because I'm not an English speaker. I wrote all that and translated faggot
dnr man dont upload this threads here please
"Dont upload this threads here please" jfl
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What are you even talking about? This thread is just me sharing an experience, not stating something obvious everyone already knows. Damn retard
:gosling:
This thread is a reinforcement of the title what are you're talking about? Your "experience" is just that you're retarded & couldn't understand personality is crucial

ur shit ai nigga, you didnt have the time to write that shit up in this website, why we lying 🙏😂😂
Anyone who has this mindset needs to be shot tbh, your conception should've been prevented
 

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That doesn’t make any sense in relation to the thread

Everyone who knows about my situation keeps asking me that—like, “can’t you even say hi?” The answer is no. And it’s not something simple, I don’t even know why… and it’s only with her. With everyone else, I don’t care—I can say whatever I want and it doesn’t affect me.

I don't think so—she always gives me opportunities, if she’s still the same as when I met her two years ago.
yea bcz i dnr'd
 

Parsival

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This thread is a reinforcement of the title what are you're talking about? Your "experience" is just that you're retarded & couldn't understand personality is crucial


Anyone who has this mindset needs to be shot tbh, your conception should've been prevented
Idk if you're the stupidest piece of shit on this forum or if you just want to seem intelligent, but anyway, You’re missing the point. The title is just the topic—I’m not claiming I discovered anything new. I’m talking about how it actually played out in my life and how it affects me now
:headpalm:
 

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This thread is a reinforcement of the title what are you're talking about? Your "experience" is just that you're retarded & couldn't understand personality is crucial


Anyone who has this mindset needs to be shot tbh, your conception should've been prevented
nothing much to say but ur right
 

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Idk if you're the stupidest piece of shit on this forum or if you just want to seem intelligent, but anyway, You’re missing the point. The title is just the topic—I’m not claiming I discovered anything new. I’m talking about how it actually played out in my life and how it affects me now
:headpalm:
I don't care. Title is still the same regardless of intent. and you still believed it was insignificant prior to making it. To understand personality is very much important should be practically innate, god knows how you traversed life under the presumption it isn't
 

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I don't care. Title is still the same regardless of intent. and you still believed it was insignificant prior to making it. To understand personality is very much important should be practically innate, god knows how you traversed life under the presumption it isn't
You’re focusing on the wrong part. That was just context to explain my mistake, not the conclusion. But yeah, I’m used to people missing the point. :dicapriolaugh: It’s literally on my profile.
 

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You’re focusing on the wrong part. That was just context to explain my mistake, not the conclusion. But yeah, I’m used to people missing the point. :dicapriolaugh: It’s literally on my profile.
Like i said it's irrelevant

the mistake was still made
 

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Ever since I can remember, I thought it didn’t really matter that much. Not because of those videos saying looks are everything, but because of my own experience. Even with my “bad” personality, I could still reach a good social position. So I thought it was just my looks carrying me, and since that day (back in school), I accepted that personality didn’t matter. When I got to high school, that idea only got stronger.

Despite having bad experiences with girls who only wanted my attention—and me treating them badly—they still wanted to be around me. What? I thought. It made no sense. If anything, they should’ve stayed away from me, not tried to get closer. But they didn’t.

Then GAVA came along. Another girl I thought I attracted just because of my looks. Another girl affected by my negative personality. She was the one who made me realize something was wrong—not just in how I treated others, but in who I was. I was never brave enough to do what I actually wanted to do.

Then Anny came. Someone who went through something similar, but this time I didn’t want to make the same mistake. And I didn’t. I worked on myself, I tried to forget, to forgive myself for what I did with GAVA. But even if it sounds bad, I could never stop thinking about her, even while being with Anny.

Tomorrow we’ll have been together for 8 months. 8 months full of experiences I’m grateful for. But in those 8 months… actually, since I met GAVA, there hasn’t been a single day where I didn’t think about her. Not in a romantic way—at least not anymore—but like a memory that follows me.

There were days I wanted to see her, even from far away. But I was afraid of one thing: that if I saw her again, I would make the same mistake I made 2 years ago—lower my gaze, avoid her, feel intimidated.

And that fear… was exactly why I was scared of seeing her again.

AND THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED.
2 YEARS. 2 FUCKING YEARS… AND I MADE THE SAME MISTAKE AGAIN.


I lowered my gaze.

She wanted me to greet her. She did the same thing she did 2 years ago—trying to get my attention, trying to make me notice her.

And I failed again.

I avoided looking at her.
I avoided everything.

Don’t get me wrong—this isn’t about wanting to cheat on my girlfriend. I know most of you don’t care about that anyway. It’s just that… after 2 years, I felt the same again. The same fear. The same weakness.

Everything I did to improve myself…
All these 2 years trying to fix things…
Trying to build enough confidence just to look up and say hi…

It meant nothing.

I felt like the same coward I was back then.

Like when she tried to talk to me and I wanted to respond… but fear took over.

Damn it.
u lost me after like 12 words in dnr boyo
 

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u lost me after like 12 words in dnr boyo
I feel deeply saddened to lose such an amazing MTB Slayer from reading my wonderful thread. Hopefully in the future you’ll grace me by reading one of my threads again.
:headpain:
 

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I feel deeply saddened to lose such an amazing MTB Slayer from reading my wonderful thread. Hopefully in the future you’ll grace me by reading one of my threads again.
:headpain:
maybe one day my subordinate
make the threads shorter next time
despicable me kiss GIF
 
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That doesn’t make any sense in relation to the thread

Everyone who knows about my situation keeps asking me that—like, “can’t you even say hi?” The answer is no. And it’s not something simple, I don’t even know why… and it’s only with her. With everyone else, I don’t care—I can say whatever I want and it doesn’t affect me.

I don't think so—she always gives me opportunities, if she’s still the same as when I met her two years ago.
Shes low iq asf if she gives you many oppertunities a good sign to not be with her man
 
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Ever since I can remember, I thought it didn’t really matter that much. Not because of those videos saying looks are everything, but because of my own experience. Even with my “bad” personality, I could still reach a good social position. So I thought it was just my looks carrying me, and since that day (back in school), I accepted that personality didn’t matter. When I got to high school, that idea only got stronger.

Despite having bad experiences with girls who only wanted my attention—and me treating them badly—they still wanted to be around me. What? I thought. It made no sense. If anything, they should’ve stayed away from me, not tried to get closer. But they didn’t.

Then GAVA came along. Another girl I thought I attracted just because of my looks. Another girl affected by my negative personality. She was the one who made me realize something was wrong—not just in how I treated others, but in who I was. I was never brave enough to do what I actually wanted to do.

Then Anny came. Someone who went through something similar, but this time I didn’t want to make the same mistake. And I didn’t. I worked on myself, I tried to forget, to forgive myself for what I did with GAVA. But even if it sounds bad, I could never stop thinking about her, even while being with Anny.

Tomorrow we’ll have been together for 8 months. 8 months full of experiences I’m grateful for. But in those 8 months… actually, since I met GAVA, there hasn’t been a single day where I didn’t think about her. Not in a romantic way—at least not anymore—but like a memory that follows me.

There were days I wanted to see her, even from far away. But I was afraid of one thing: that if I saw her again, I would make the same mistake I made 2 years ago—lower my gaze, avoid her, feel intimidated.

And that fear… was exactly why I was scared of seeing her again.

AND THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED.
2 YEARS. 2 FUCKING YEARS… AND I MADE THE SAME MISTAKE AGAIN.


I lowered my gaze.

She wanted me to greet her. She did the same thing she did 2 years ago—trying to get my attention, trying to make me notice her.

And I failed again.

I avoided looking at her.
I avoided everything.

Don’t get me wrong—this isn’t about wanting to cheat on my girlfriend. I know most of you don’t care about that anyway. It’s just that… after 2 years, I felt the same again. The same fear. The same weakness.

Everything I did to improve myself…
All these 2 years trying to fix things…
Trying to build enough confidence just to look up and say hi…

It meant nothing.

I felt like the same coward I was back then.

Like when she tried to talk to me and I wanted to respond… but fear took over.

Damn it.
Personality matters as in you must be nt and extroverted (very important as a man, you cant be an introverted shy little bitch as a man, its simply not an option)

Past this being nice or being a jerk is on you but yeah you atleast gotta be very nt (or atleast fake it) and extroverted if you wanna live your best life as a man
 

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