Blackpill On the “Chad stole your girl” side (1 Viewer)

[Parsival]

I knew she liked me for a while. What I didn’t know was that she had a boyfriend. One day this foid confessed to me and, after that, she broke up with him. That’s when the context changed. Because I genuinely had no idea or suspicion. I’ve been with this foid for 7 months now. And still, there’s this weird feeling that doesn’t go away. Not because I did something wrong, but because I still ended up inside that situation. From my side, there was no intention. But the outcome is the same. I guess I’m on the “Chad stole your girl” side. And I guess that’s fine, but there’s still that strange feeling of having taken someone from someone else.

I don’t know how she feels about it, but the relationship was kind of… “too easy” for me. Early on we were already doing stuff (sex), and then it became daily sex. I don’t really feel a strong empathy for her or for him, and that also feels off to me. I guess I’m young and this is the first time something like this happens to me.

If I’m being completely honest, I’m with this foid because she fits perfectly into my current lifestyle in the most convenient way possible. I don’t feel real attraction in the sense of wanting a relationship; it’s more that relationships are usually too much effort for what they give back. With her, there’s almost no resistance. Her parents are divorced, her dad is barely around (only 3 days every month) and her mom is never home(only lives with her 2 brothers), so I can go to her place every day and fucks her. She doesn’t have many friends, wasn’t popular, and is easy to manipulate. She cooks for me, and over time, through arguments and pressure, I’ve shaped parts of her behavior to match what I want. Now she’s heavily into this mindset of “serving me” or treating me like a husband. From a purely functional perspective, it’s an easy way to get comfort, routine, and that sense of attachment without much cost.

I’m a bit conflicted about this situation, honestly. Can someone give me some advice or something? Please I'm young and idk how to feel abt this.

 

[coloringhalo]

I knew she liked me for a while. What I didn’t know was that she had a boyfriend. One day this foid confessed to me and, after that, she broke up with him. That’s when the context changed. Because I genuinely had no idea or suspicion. I’ve been with this foid for 7 months now. And still, there’s this weird feeling that doesn’t go away. Not because I did something wrong, but because I still ended up inside that situation. From my side, there was no intention. But the outcome is the same. I guess I’m on the “Chad stole your girl” side. And I guess that’s fine, but there’s still that strange feeling of having taken someone from someone else.

I don’t know how she feels about it, but the relationship was kind of… “too easy” for me. Early on we were already doing stuff (sex), and then it became daily sex. I don’t really feel a strong empathy for her or for him, and that also feels off to me. I guess I’m young and this is the first time something like this happens to me.

If I’m being completely honest, I’m with this foid because she fits perfectly into my current lifestyle in the most convenient way possible. I don’t feel real attraction in the sense of wanting a relationship; it’s more that relationships are usually too much effort for what they give back. With her, there’s almost no resistance. Her parents are divorced, her dad is barely around (only 3 days every month) and her mom is never home(only lives with her 2 brothers), so I can go to her place every day and fucks her. She doesn’t have many friends, wasn’t popular, and is easy to manipulate. She cooks for me, and over time, through arguments and pressure, I’ve shaped parts of her behavior to match what I want. Now she’s heavily into this mindset of “serving me” or treating me like a husband. From a purely functional perspective, it’s an easy way to get comfort, routine, and that sense of attachment without much cost.

I’m a bit conflicted about this situation, honestly. Can someone give me some advice or something? Please I'm young and idk how to feel abt this.

I'm too tired to read this

 

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TLDR?

 

[Parsival]

TLDR?

Then what’s the point of this forum if people always respond like this?

I’m posting a real thread, explaining an actual situation related to BP, trying to get perspectives, and the response is just TLDR.

You’re a moderator. Shouldn’t the goal be to encourage actual discussion instead of dismissing it?

I don’t really get it. What’s the objective of this forum then?

 

[Hexum]

Then what’s the point of this forum if people always respond like this?

I’m posting a real thread, explaining an actual situation related to BP, trying to get perspectives, and the response is just TLDR.

You’re a moderator. Shouldn’t the goal be to encourage actual discussion instead of dismissing it?

I don’t really get it. What’s the objective of this forum then?

ig bro ill read

 

[coloringhalo]

Then what’s the point of this forum if people always respond like this?

I’m posting a real thread, explaining an actual situation related to BP, trying to get perspectives, and the response is just TLDR.

You’re a moderator. Shouldn’t the goal be to encourage actual discussion instead of dismissing it?

I don’t really get it. What’s the objective of this forum then?

i will read your real thread later, promise

 

[Parsival]

ig bro ill read

If you’ve read it, I’d appreciate your take on it—especially how you see the situation overall. Could you give me some advice or something? I'm feeling weird

 

[Oryza]

I knew she liked me for a while. What I didn’t know was that she had a boyfriend. One day this foid confessed to me and, after that, she broke up with him. That’s when the context changed. Because I genuinely had no idea or suspicion. I’ve been with this foid for 7 months now. And still, there’s this weird feeling that doesn’t go away. Not because I did something wrong, but because I still ended up inside that situation. From my side, there was no intention. But the outcome is the same. I guess I’m on the “Chad stole your girl” side. And I guess that’s fine, but there’s still that strange feeling of having taken someone from someone else.

I don’t know how she feels about it, but the relationship was kind of… “too easy” for me. Early on we were already doing stuff (sex), and then it became daily sex. I don’t really feel a strong empathy for her or for him, and that also feels off to me. I guess I’m young and this is the first time something like this happens to me.

If I’m being completely honest, I’m with this foid because she fits perfectly into my current lifestyle in the most convenient way possible. I don’t feel real attraction in the sense of wanting a relationship; it’s more that relationships are usually too much effort for what they give back. With her, there’s almost no resistance. Her parents are divorced, her dad is barely around (only 3 days every month) and her mom is never home(only lives with her 2 brothers), so I can go to her place every day and fucks her. She doesn’t have many friends, wasn’t popular, and is easy to manipulate. She cooks for me, and over time, through arguments and pressure, I’ve shaped parts of her behavior to match what I want. Now she’s heavily into this mindset of “serving me” or treating me like a husband. From a purely functional perspective, it’s an easy way to get comfort, routine, and that sense of attachment without much cost.

I’m a bit conflicted about this situation, honestly. Can someone give me some advice or something? Please I'm young and idk how to feel abt this.

Start a new life or move somewhere else with her . Her life is torn apart and you’re basically the only thing bridging her if everything in this text is truthful

 

[Hexum]

I knew she liked me for a while. What I didn’t know was that she had a boyfriend. One day this foid confessed to me and, after that, she broke up with him. That’s when the context changed. Because I genuinely had no idea or suspicion. I’ve been with this foid for 7 months now. And still, there’s this weird feeling that doesn’t go away. Not because I did something wrong, but because I still ended up inside that situation. From my side, there was no intention. But the outcome is the same. I guess I’m on the “Chad stole your girl” side. And I guess that’s fine, but there’s still that strange feeling of having taken someone from someone else.

I don’t know how she feels about it, but the relationship was kind of… “too easy” for me. Early on we were already doing stuff (sex), and then it became daily sex. I don’t really feel a strong empathy for her or for him, and that also feels off to me. I guess I’m young and this is the first time something like this happens to me.

If I’m being completely honest, I’m with this foid because she fits perfectly into my current lifestyle in the most convenient way possible. I don’t feel real attraction in the sense of wanting a relationship; it’s more that relationships are usually too much effort for what they give back. With her, there’s almost no resistance. Her parents are divorced, her dad is barely around (only 3 days every month) and her mom is never home(only lives with her 2 brothers), so I can go to her place every day and fucks her. She doesn’t have many friends, wasn’t popular, and is easy to manipulate. She cooks for me, and over time, through arguments and pressure, I’ve shaped parts of her behavior to match what I want. Now she’s heavily into this mindset of “serving me” or treating me like a husband. From a purely functional perspective, it’s an easy way to get comfort, routine, and that sense of attachment without much cost.

I’m a bit conflicted about this situation, honestly. Can someone give me some advice or something? Please I'm young and idk how to feel abt this.

 

[Hexum]

I knew she liked me for a while. What I didn’t know was that she had a boyfriend. One day this foid confessed to me and, after that, she broke up with him. That’s when the context changed. Because I genuinely had no idea or suspicion. I’ve been with this foid for 7 months now. And still, there’s this weird feeling that doesn’t go away. Not because I did something wrong, but because I still ended up inside that situation. From my side, there was no intention. But the outcome is the same. I guess I’m on the “Chad stole your girl” side. And I guess that’s fine, but there’s still that strange feeling of having taken someone from someone else.

I don’t know how she feels about it, but the relationship was kind of… “too easy” for me. Early on we were already doing stuff (sex), and then it became daily sex. I don’t really feel a strong empathy for her or for him, and that also feels off to me. I guess I’m young and this is the first time something like this happens to me.

If I’m being completely honest, I’m with this foid because she fits perfectly into my current lifestyle in the most convenient way possible. I don’t feel real attraction in the sense of wanting a relationship; it’s more that relationships are usually too much effort for what they give back. With her, there’s almost no resistance. Her parents are divorced, her dad is barely around (only 3 days every month) and her mom is never home(only lives with her 2 brothers), so I can go to her place every day and fucks her. She doesn’t have many friends, wasn’t popular, and is easy to manipulate. She cooks for me, and over time, through arguments and pressure, I’ve shaped parts of her behavior to match what I want. Now she’s heavily into this mindset of “serving me” or treating me like a husband. From a purely functional perspective, it’s an easy way to get comfort, routine, and that sense of attachment without much cost.

I’m a bit conflicted about this situation, honestly. Can someone give me some advice or something? Please I'm young and idk how to feel abt this.

just keep doing what you're doing all an foids deserve to be treated like this

 

[Parsival]

Start a new life or move somewhere else with her . Her life is torn apart and you’re basically the only thing bridging her if everything in this text is truthful

Yeah, I’ve actually thought about that. But before anything like that, I feel like there are still things I need to work through with her. I know discussions (and even some conflict) are necessary for a LTR, and I’m trying to understand her past and address certain points to see if this is something I can stabilize long-term.
I also have a piece of land where I’m supposed to build my future house. It’s pretty far from where we currently live, so maybe that could help isolate things from her past. At the same time, I’m not naive—I understand the nature of things and I’m not building illusions. I’m still young, and I know that a relationship like this is hard to maintain in a genuine way. But if everything goes right, I could basically have my life set.

 

[nineteen]

I knew she liked me for a while. What I didn’t know was that she had a boyfriend. One day this foid confessed to me and, after that, she broke up with him. That’s when the context changed. Because I genuinely had no idea or suspicion. I’ve been with this foid for 7 months now. And still, there’s this weird feeling that doesn’t go away. Not because I did something wrong, but because I still ended up inside that situation. From my side, there was no intention. But the outcome is the same. I guess I’m on the “Chad stole your girl” side. And I guess that’s fine, but there’s still that strange feeling of having taken someone from someone else.

I don’t know how she feels about it, but the relationship was kind of… “too easy” for me. Early on we were already doing stuff (sex), and then it became daily sex. I don’t really feel a strong empathy for her or for him, and that also feels off to me. I guess I’m young and this is the first time something like this happens to me.

If I’m being completely honest, I’m with this foid because she fits perfectly into my current lifestyle in the most convenient way possible. I don’t feel real attraction in the sense of wanting a relationship; it’s more that relationships are usually too much effort for what they give back. With her, there’s almost no resistance. Her parents are divorced, her dad is barely around (only 3 days every month) and her mom is never home(only lives with her 2 brothers), so I can go to her place every day and fucks her. She doesn’t have many friends, wasn’t popular, and is easy to manipulate. She cooks for me, and over time, through arguments and pressure, I’ve shaped parts of her behavior to match what I want. Now she’s heavily into this mindset of “serving me” or treating me like a husband. From a purely functional perspective, it’s an easy way to get comfort, routine, and that sense of attachment without much cost.

I’m a bit conflicted about this situation, honestly. Can someone give me some advice or something? Please I'm young and idk how to feel abt this.

dnr

 

[Parsival]

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LMAO yeah I know while I was writing this thread I was literally thinking “this sounds delusional as hell” but I swear this is actually what’s going on.

 

[Oryza]

Yeah, I’ve actually thought about that. But before anything like that, I feel like there are still things I need to work through with her. I know discussions (and even some conflict) are necessary for a LTR, and I’m trying to understand her past and address certain points to see if this is something I can stabilize long-term.
I also have a piece of land where I’m supposed to build my future house. It’s pretty far from where we currently live, so maybe that could help isolate things from her past. At the same time, I’m not naive—I understand the nature of things and I’m not building illusions. I’m still young, and I know that a relationship like this is hard to maintain in a genuine way. But if everything goes right, I could basically have my life set.

Get that bag bro

 

[mog23]

I knew she liked me for a while. What I didn’t know was that she had a boyfriend. One day this foid confessed to me and, after that, she broke up with him. That’s when the context changed. Because I genuinely had no idea or suspicion. I’ve been with this foid for 7 months now. And still, there’s this weird feeling that doesn’t go away. Not because I did something wrong, but because I still ended up inside that situation. From my side, there was no intention. But the outcome is the same. I guess I’m on the “Chad stole your girl” side. And I guess that’s fine, but there’s still that strange feeling of having taken someone from someone else.

I don’t know how she feels about it, but the relationship was kind of… “too easy” for me. Early on we were already doing stuff (sex), and then it became daily sex. I don’t really feel a strong empathy for her or for him, and that also feels off to me. I guess I’m young and this is the first time something like this happens to me.

If I’m being completely honest, I’m with this foid because she fits perfectly into my current lifestyle in the most convenient way possible. I don’t feel real attraction in the sense of wanting a relationship; it’s more that relationships are usually too much effort for what they give back. With her, there’s almost no resistance. Her parents are divorced, her dad is barely around (only 3 days every month) and her mom is never home(only lives with her 2 brothers), so I can go to her place every day and fucks her. She doesn’t have many friends, wasn’t popular, and is easy to manipulate. She cooks for me, and over time, through arguments and pressure, I’ve shaped parts of her behavior to match what I want. Now she’s heavily into this mindset of “serving me” or treating me like a husband. From a purely functional perspective, it’s an easy way to get comfort, routine, and that sense of attachment without much cost.

I’m a bit conflicted about this situation, honestly. Can someone give me some advice or something? Please I'm young and idk how to feel abt this.

 

[realhmtn]

Then what’s the point of this forum if people always respond like this?

I’m posting a real thread, explaining an actual situation related to BP, trying to get perspectives, and the response is just TLDR.

You’re a moderator. Shouldn’t the goal be to encourage actual discussion instead of dismissing it?

I don’t really get it. What’s the objective of this forum then?

I agree with you

They shouldn’t give moderator privileges to a 17 year-old in the first place

At least encourage discourse in a thread like this

 

[realhmtn]

I knew she liked me for a while. What I didn’t know was that she had a boyfriend. One day this foid confessed to me and, after that, she broke up with him. That’s when the context changed. Because I genuinely had no idea or suspicion. I’ve been with this foid for 7 months now. And still, there’s this weird feeling that doesn’t go away. Not because I did something wrong, but because I still ended up inside that situation. From my side, there was no intention. But the outcome is the same. I guess I’m on the “Chad stole your girl” side. And I guess that’s fine, but there’s still that strange feeling of having taken someone from someone else.

I don’t know how she feels about it, but the relationship was kind of… “too easy” for me. Early on we were already doing stuff (sex), and then it became daily sex. I don’t really feel a strong empathy for her or for him, and that also feels off to me. I guess I’m young and this is the first time something like this happens to me.

If I’m being completely honest, I’m with this foid because she fits perfectly into my current lifestyle in the most convenient way possible. I don’t feel real attraction in the sense of wanting a relationship; it’s more that relationships are usually too much effort for what they give back. With her, there’s almost no resistance. Her parents are divorced, her dad is barely around (only 3 days every month) and her mom is never home(only lives with her 2 brothers), so I can go to her place every day and fucks her. She doesn’t have many friends, wasn’t popular, and is easy to manipulate. She cooks for me, and over time, through arguments and pressure, I’ve shaped parts of her behavior to match what I want. Now she’s heavily into this mindset of “serving me” or treating me like a husband. From a purely functional perspective, it’s an easy way to get comfort, routine, and that sense of attachment without much cost.

I’m a bit conflicted about this situation, honestly. Can someone give me some advice or something? Please I'm young and idk how to feel abt this.

Just keep her around until she starts becoming annoying

she sounds like the perfect girlfriend tbfh

 

[Hexum]

Just keep her around until she starts becoming annoying

she sounds like the perfect girlfriend tbfh

he says he isnt attracted to her if you aren't attracted to someone the tiniest actions can genuinely piss you off sometimes

 

[realhmtn]

he says he isnt attracted to her if you aren't attracted to someone the tiniest actions can genuinely piss you off sometimes

every girl is annoying

I meant to say; if you get really annoyed

 

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Then what’s the point of this forum if people always respond like this?

I’m posting a real thread, explaining an actual situation related to BP, trying to get perspectives, and the response is just TLDR.

You’re a moderator. Shouldn’t the goal be to encourage actual discussion instead of dismissing it?

I don’t really get it. What’s the objective of this forum then?

im not dismissing anything nigga, i guess ill read it later.

 

[Parsival]

he says he isnt attracted to her if you aren't attracted to someone the tiniest actions can genuinely piss you off sometimes

To be honest, yeah, there are moments where she annoys me, and sometimes that feeling can last for hours. But I also know it’s not all negative. I’m not going to ignore everything good she brings just because my own neurodivergence makes me fixate on small things she does.


Something I didn’t mention is that she’s also neurodivergent, just in a different way. She struggles with certain social situations and has her own flaws that I can understand, so even when I get annoyed, I also understand why she acts the way she does.


I’ve gone pretty deep with her life at this point. There have been multiple moments where, if I wasn’t there, she would’ve been completely alone during difficult situations. Like yesterday, she got a bad grade for university entry. Even if that score might still be enough for her program, it’s not guaranteed. Her father called her telling her to study more and take another exam for a different career she doesn’t even want, and I was there with her physically in her house supporting her through that.


Situations like that have happened many times—honestly too many to count. So even if there are frustrating moments, I can’t ignore the context of who she is and what she goes through.


I know life is supposed to have both happy and frustrating moments, and she gives me both, so in a way she makes me enjoy life a bit more. I feel like this might sound kind of corny, but I’m being literal, not ironic.

 

[VelocityAnt]

my own neurodivergence makes me fixate on small things.

I'll say you kinda responded to yourself with this. You feel weird just cause of it, if any other one was in ur place (NT or somewhat a tad ND), they would brush it off or see the good or the 2 in it rather than the bad, or the two entangled in it & not care.

You could try to think that you were meant to be or some shit like that to reassure you. And that if she's satisfied and you're too then it's enough.

Thinking too much, fixating into things (aka ND tendencies) sometimes are just too much and "unneccesary" in the muh grand picture.

In way you've brought it on yourself, but it's not really your fault. You only need to see much more or smth tbf I don't know myself cause I'm living it. Light and Simple would be better

 

[Parsival]

I'll say you kinda responded to yourself with this. You feel weird just cause of it, if any other one was in ur place (NT or somewhat a tad ND), they would brush it off or see the good or the 2 in it rather than the bad, or the two entangled in it & not care.

You could try to think that you were meant to be or some shit like that to reassure you. And that if she's satisfied and you're too then it's enough.

Thinking too much, fixating into things (aka ND tendencies) sometimes are just too much and "unneccesary" in the muh grand picture.

In way you've brought it on yourself, but it's not really your fault. You only need to see much more or smth tbf I don't know myself cause I'm living it. Light and Simple would be better

My issue isn’t really what you’re describing. It’s more about the fact that I ended up in a situation where I “took” another guy’s girlfriend, even if it wasn’t intentional.

I know it’s not something I caused on purpose, but this thread was meant more to ask for help with this weird feeling I have about the situation itself. It kind of shifted into focusing on her instead, which I guess is fine, but that wasn’t really the main point I was trying to get at.

 

[User]

Fuck man, I'd love to help you and advise but other than Looksmaxxing I'm clueless and a bit of an idiot.

What I can gauge from this is that you're thinking very deeply into it, and I'm not ND so I can't relate to you much, but try to think less and not ponder, sometimes going with the flow is the best way to do things and it turns out in your favour a lot of the times.

You need to understand that right now you are a vital part of her life, and most people don't have that, most people crave that opportunity, take advantage of it, learn to love her for her imperfections as well as the good she brings along, its not your fault but you are involved at the end of the day. It also seems like you share a lot in common, sometimes you need to put your ND thoughts to a side and actually live life, learn to love, everything will be okay.

At the end of the day I don't take girls this serious but it says a lot about me and a lot about YOU, you're much better than me in this context, be the better person you know what's right, you just need to take action.

 

[VelocityAnt]

My issue isn’t really what you’re describing. It’s more about the fact that I ended up in a situation where I “took” another guy’s girlfriend, even if it wasn’t intentional.

I know it’s not something I caused on purpose, but this thread was meant more to ask for help with this weird feeling I have about the situation itself. It kind of shifted into focusing on her instead, which I guess is fine, but that wasn’t really the main point I was trying to get at.

You taking someone else spouse make that weird feeling, but you couldn't have any way to know.

Guilt? Maybe
Or just seeing it as abnormal to have a GF like this? Idk
Develop that idea.
It is what it is, sometime.

Meh I don't really have an answer, was thinking/pondering get you that feeling or did it spawn in just like that?

fuark I can't help allat now

 

[Parsival]

Fuck man, I'd love to help you and advise but other than Looksmaxxing I'm clueless and a bit of an idiot.

What I can gauge from this is that you're thinking very deeply into it, and I'm not ND so I can't relate to you much, but try to think less and not ponder, sometimes going with the flow is the best way to do things and it turns out in your favour a lot of the times.

You need to understand that right now you are a vital part of her life, and most people don't have that, most people crave that opportunity, take advantage of it, learn to love her for her imperfections as well as the good she brings along, its not your fault but you are involved at the end of the day. It also seems like you share a lot in common, sometimes you need to put your ND thoughts to a side and actually live life, learn to love, everything will be okay.

At the end of the day I don't take girls this serious but it says a lot about me and a lot about YOU, you're much better than me in this context, be the better person you know what's right, you just need to take action.

Thanks, brother. I know my main issue is overthinking things. I’ve had enough bad experiences because of it that she actually knows I can be pretty paranoid sometimes, and she understands it to a degree. Sometimes she even takes the time to stay with me and explain things calmly.

I guess it’s another situation caused by my neurodivergence. I really hate it, because it’s happened too many times already.

But yeah, thanks a lot. I’ll try to work on it, and she’s also helping me and being patient with me. I guess this is the solution.

 

[pluck]

Same thing happened to me not so long ago. A girl kept talking to me despite being in a relationship. I didn't feel remorseful towards her partner because I wasn't the one who engaged with her; she was the one who approached me (Just like your situation). It wasn't your fault whatsoever. The only person who should feel slightly bad about it is your girlfriend (No offense to her).

 

[goyboy.hero]

I knew she liked me for a while. What I didn’t know was that she had a boyfriend. One day this foid confessed to me and, after that, she broke up with him. That’s when the context changed. Because I genuinely had no idea or suspicion. I’ve been with this foid for 7 months now. And still, there’s this weird feeling that doesn’t go away. Not because I did something wrong, but because I still ended up inside that situation. From my side, there was no intention. But the outcome is the same. I guess I’m on the “Chad stole your girl” side. And I guess that’s fine, but there’s still that strange feeling of having taken someone from someone else.

I don’t know how she feels about it, but the relationship was kind of… “too easy” for me. Early on we were already doing stuff (sex), and then it became daily sex. I don’t really feel a strong empathy for her or for him, and that also feels off to me. I guess I’m young and this is the first time something like this happens to me.

If I’m being completely honest, I’m with this foid because she fits perfectly into my current lifestyle in the most convenient way possible. I don’t feel real attraction in the sense of wanting a relationship; it’s more that relationships are usually too much effort for what they give back. With her, there’s almost no resistance. Her parents are divorced, her dad is barely around (only 3 days every month) and her mom is never home(only lives with her 2 brothers), so I can go to her place every day and fucks her. She doesn’t have many friends, wasn’t popular, and is easy to manipulate. She cooks for me, and over time, through arguments and pressure, I’ve shaped parts of her behavior to match what I want. Now she’s heavily into this mindset of “serving me” or treating me like a husband. From a purely functional perspective, it’s an easy way to get comfort, routine, and that sense of attachment without much cost.

I’m a bit conflicted about this situation, honestly. Can someone give me some advice or something? Please I'm young and idk how to feel abt this.

Only read the first half paragraph. Why would you get into a long term relationship with a girl that broke up with her last bf for you. Simple mistake

 

[Parsival]

Only read the first half paragraph. Why would you get into a long term relationship with a girl that broke up with her last bf for you. Simple mistake

Interesting, I actually didn’t know she broke up with her last boyfriend because of me. That’s one of the things I was overthinking and part of why I made this thread. I’d like to hear different perspectives on this. I’m still young, so I know I can make mistakes, but I’m trying to understand the situation from different points of view. The people who replied earlier I’d appreciate if they could also discuss this with me. User VelocityAnt realhmtn

 

[goyboy.hero]

Interesting, I actually didn’t know she broke up with her last boyfriend because of me. That’s one of the things I was overthinking and part of why I made this thread. I’d like to hear different perspectives on this. I’m still young, so I know I can make mistakes, but I’m trying to understand the situation from different points of view. I don’t really know how to tag the people who replied earlier, but I’d appreciate if they could also discuss this with me. User VelocityAnt realhmtn

You seem pretty intelligent js based off this paragraph, good way to go about it. I'll read your big ass paragraphs now

 

[goyboy.hero]

I knew she liked me for a while. What I didn’t know was that she had a boyfriend. One day this foid confessed to me and, after that, she broke up with him. That’s when the context changed. Because I genuinely had no idea or suspicion. I’ve been with this foid for 7 months now. And still, there’s this weird feeling that doesn’t go away. Not because I did something wrong, but because I still ended up inside that situation. From my side, there was no intention. But the outcome is the same. I guess I’m on the “Chad stole your girl” side. And I guess that’s fine, but there’s still that strange feeling of having taken someone from someone else.

I don’t know how she feels about it, but the relationship was kind of… “too easy” for me. Early on we were already doing stuff (sex), and then it became daily sex. I don’t really feel a strong empathy for her or for him, and that also feels off to me. I guess I’m young and this is the first time something like this happens to me.

If I’m being completely honest, I’m with this foid because she fits perfectly into my current lifestyle in the most convenient way possible. I don’t feel real attraction in the sense of wanting a relationship; it’s more that relationships are usually too much effort for what they give back. With her, there’s almost no resistance. Her parents are divorced, her dad is barely around (only 3 days every month) and her mom is never home(only lives with her 2 brothers), so I can go to her place every day and fucks her. She doesn’t have many friends, wasn’t popular, and is easy to manipulate. She cooks for me, and over time, through arguments and pressure, I’ve shaped parts of her behavior to match what I want. Now she’s heavily into this mindset of “serving me” or treating me like a husband. From a purely functional perspective, it’s an easy way to get comfort, routine, and that sense of attachment without much cost.

I’m a bit conflicted about this situation, honestly. Can someone give me some advice or something? Please I'm young and idk how to feel abt this.

What are you looking for advice on? Besides the being in a relationship part you seem to have it figured out. If I was you, I'd just tell her some bs excuse for breaking up with her, but tell her you still love her so you can keep cracking

 

[Parsival]

What are you looking for advice on? Besides the being in a relationship part you seem to have it figured out. If I was you, I'd just tell her some bs excuse for breaking up with her, but tell her you still love her so you can keep cracking

In January I actually did exactly what you said, but at some point everything started going wrong for her, and I felt that if I left her then, other people would take advantage of her situation again. And I feel disgust at the idea of cracking someone that other people take advantage. So I made her take the wife personality. And only having me for her. But the problem here is that I feel weird about "she left her ex for me" That's wrong and I'm not talking in the moral way.

 

[Oryza]

In January I actually did exactly what you said, but at some point everything started going wrong for her, and I felt that if I left her then, other people would take advantage of her situation again. And I feel disgust at the idea of cracking someone that other people take advantage. So I made her take the wife personality. And only having me for her. But the problem here is that I feel weird about "she left her ex for me" That's wrong and I'm not talking in the moral way.

do you love her?

 

[Parsival]

do you love her?

I know love doesn’t exist, it’s just chemical reactions humans have to reproduce. And love is just the human mind trying to give depth and meaning to that reaction. I’m also not the type of person who actively looks for a partner; I’d say I might even be somewhat asexual if it weren’t for her. It’s just very comfortable interacting with someone like her. But I don’t really want to be in a situation where I have to go through everything I went through with her again, because I’ve already made progress. And for a neurodivergent person like me, that itself is an achievement.

 

[Oryza]

I know love doesn’t exist, it’s just chemical reactions humans have to reproduce. And love is just the human mind trying to give depth and meaning to that reaction. I’m also not the type of person who actively looks for a partner; I’d say I might even be somewhat asexual if it weren’t for her. It’s just very comfortable interacting with someone like her. But I don’t really want to be in a situation where I have to go through everything I went through with her again, because I’ve already made progress. And for a neurodivergent person like me, that itself is an achievement.

if you want her just go for it, all im saying. Use that progress as a vantage point to continue

 

[hippocamp]

I knew she liked me for a while. What I didn’t know was that she had a boyfriend. One day this foid confessed to me and, after that, she broke up with him. That’s when the context changed. Because I genuinely had no idea or suspicion. I’ve been with this foid for 7 months now. And still, there’s this weird feeling that doesn’t go away. Not because I did something wrong, but because I still ended up inside that situation. From my side, there was no intention. But the outcome is the same. I guess I’m on the “Chad stole your girl” side. And I guess that’s fine, but there’s still that strange feeling of having taken someone from someone else.

I don’t know how she feels about it, but the relationship was kind of… “too easy” for me. Early on we were already doing stuff (sex), and then it became daily sex. I don’t really feel a strong empathy for her or for him, and that also feels off to me. I guess I’m young and this is the first time something like this happens to me.

If I’m being completely honest, I’m with this foid because she fits perfectly into my current lifestyle in the most convenient way possible. I don’t feel real attraction in the sense of wanting a relationship; it’s more that relationships are usually too much effort for what they give back. With her, there’s almost no resistance. Her parents are divorced, her dad is barely around (only 3 days every month) and her mom is never home(only lives with her 2 brothers), so I can go to her place every day and fucks her. She doesn’t have many friends, wasn’t popular, and is easy to manipulate. She cooks for me, and over time, through arguments and pressure, I’ve shaped parts of her behavior to match what I want. Now she’s heavily into this mindset of “serving me” or treating me like a husband. From a purely functional perspective, it’s an easy way to get comfort, routine, and that sense of attachment without much cost.

I’m a bit conflicted about this situation, honestly. Can someone give me some advice or something? Please I'm young and idk how to feel abt this.

No but the thing is, I'm sorry but foids like that will cuck their boyfriends as soon as they find someone better, no matter what, if it wasn't you, it would be someone else, beware.

 

[hippocamp]

I know love doesn’t exist, it’s just chemical reactions humans have to reproduce. And love is just the human mind trying to give depth and meaning to that reaction. I’m also not the type of person who actively looks for a partner; I’d say I might even be somewhat asexual if it weren’t for her. It’s just very comfortable interacting with someone like her. But I don’t really want to be in a situation where I have to go through everything I went through with her again, because I’ve already made progress. And for a neurodivergent person like me, that itself is an achievement.

I read everything and now I think you should jus be there for her, I mean what else do you want, as long as you don't have any problem with the relationship, keep fucking

 

[User]

Interesting, I actually didn’t know she broke up with her last boyfriend because of me. That’s one of the things I was overthinking and part of why I made this thread. I’d like to hear different perspectives on this. I’m still young, so I know I can make mistakes, but I’m trying to understand the situation from different points of view. The people who replied earlier I’d appreciate if they could also discuss this with me. User VelocityAnt realhmtn

In January I actually did exactly what you said, but at some point everything started going wrong for her, and I felt that if I left her then, other people would take advantage of her situation again. And I feel disgust at the idea of cracking someone that other people take advantage. So I made her take the wife personality. And only having me for her. But the problem here is that I feel weird about "she left her ex for me" That's wrong and I'm not talking in the moral way.

I've seen plenty of relationships that start exactly how yours started, and plenty of successful ones too. The 2nd paragraph of yours that I've rehashed is evident that while you may not believe in love, you do have moral compass. What your partner did was just simple female biology in my opinion, she found someone better and left him. Now, this doesn't necessarily mean that you looked better, had more money etc. She found something within you which she holds deep value in, and then based off her emotions she made a decision on a swift replacement.

This does NOT mean that it is going to happen to you though as most people would assume, and you mentioned she is letting you morph her into the person you want her to be which is a strong indicator that whatever she has seen in you is something she would like long term. You may not "love" her, but all I have to say is in this scenario I don't think you're deluded at all, and you may well have found a long term partner, this is a blessing. How she arrived to you shouldn't be of concern if I'm honest. Its hard to remove that feeling once you know how she came to you, but a positive is that she notified you of it, if she was ingenuine she would NOT have made you aware of this, you're good bro. Dw about it.

 

[Parsival]

I've seen plenty of relationships that start exactly how yours started, and plenty of successful ones too. The 2nd paragraph of yours that I've rehashed is evident that while you may not believe in love, you do have moral compass. What your partner did was just simple female biology in my opinion, she found someone better and left him. Now, this doesn't necessarily mean that you looked better, had more money etc. She found something within you which she holds deep value in, and then based off her emotions she made a decision on a swift replacement.

This does NOT mean that it is going to happen to you though as most people would assume, and you mentioned she is letting you morph her into the person you want her to be which is a strong indicator that whatever she has seen in you is something she would like long term. You may not "love" her, but all I have to say is in this scenario I don't think you're deluded at all, and you may well have found a long term partner, this is a blessing. How she arrived to you shouldn't be of concern if I'm honest. Its hard to remove that feeling once you know how she came to you, but a positive is that she notified you of it, if she was ingenuine she would NOT have made you aware of this, you're good bro. Dw about it.

Thanks for your perspective, it actually helps me think about it more clearly.

And just to clarify what I meant about not necessarily being more attractive or richer than him—I don’t want to be misunderstood, but my concern is more about the idea of being liked only for appearance. In my case, she liked me from around 2 years ago already, but I’ve also had situations before where people were only interested in me for how I look, and even cases where girls with boyfriends still tried to flirt with me.

It’s not really something I think is “morally wrong” in the sense of judging them harshly—it’s more that I just don’t see that kind of dynamic as something meaningful or worth engaging in. When I found out about her past situation, one of my first thoughts was honestly: maybe I shouldn’t have gotten involved in the first place.

I also remember something my aunt once told me—she comes from a pretty loving and functional family—and she said she met her husband when both of them were already in relationships. They both left their previous partners because they genuinely chose each other, and now they have 3 kids, a house, financial stability, and a healthy relationship. I guess it made me think that maybe relationships don’t necessarily need to start in a “clean” or ideal way, and that the way something begins doesn’t always determine how it will end up. Maybe I could even see this as a sign that things could work long-term.

 

[User]

Thanks for your perspective, it actually helps me think about it more clearly.

Maybe I could even see this as a sign that things could work long-term.

Absolutely, the problem a lot of humans make for themselves is that they wait around for ideals, its "their way or the highway". I have a cousin who is like this when it comes to romantic encounters, he is almost 30 now and lives what I would say is a pretty incel life although he isn't even blackpilled, the only thing stopping him from settling down and getting married is his obsession over ideals: ideal background, ideal interests, ideal work etc.

This of course almost guarantees him a life of loneliness, and he does it to himself. Hope I've helped adequately.