Parsival
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I was honestly debating whether to post this thread or not, because it might seem like I’m talking too much about her. But I also think it’s related to lookism, and maybe it can be an interesting experience for others to read.
I think I drifted a bit away from the original lookism focus and got more into personal stuff. I know most of you probably don’t really care about that, but I guess threads like this are better than the forum being filled only with “
For a long time, she tried to hide the fact that she was insecure about her appearance. It wasn’t something she openly expressed.
She was never really someone who stayed in one stable group. In school, she would often switch between different groups during break time, trying to fit in wherever she could. From the outside, she always seemed a bit like the “nerdy” type, someone who didn’t naturally stand out socially, but looking back it also felt like she was constantly trying to find her place.
Her main insecurity was acne. She tends to focus heavily on that one aspect of her appearance. It feels like her self-perception is heavily centered on a single feature rather than how her overall appearance actually comes together.
There were also moments where I kind of “dug deeper” into her mindset and personality. That’s when I started realizing there was more insecurity than she ever showed openly.
Eventually, she did open up about it. One day she told me something like: “I know you’re lying when you call me pretty… can’t you see my face?” That moment honestly changed how I understood what she was going through.
She ended up breaking down emotionally, and I had to stay with her and help her calm down. I tried to make her understand that one insecurity doesn’t define how someone looks as a whole or who she is.
After I managed to calm her down and get things back to normal, things were peaceful again. However, shortly after, her dad called her about her admission exam grades for university, and she became overwhelmed emotionally again. I ended up staying with her once more to help her through it, and I stayed until very late at night. Eventually I had to head back home while it was already dark and not very safe, which is pretty common here. My mom got worried and ended up scolding me for coming back so late. She also doesn’t know that I’m still in a relationship. I told her that we had broken up because my mom doesn’t want me to have a girlfriend right now, since I’m very focused on my studies and she believes I have a bright future. She’s worried that a relationship could distract me or negatively affect that, and she used to constantly pressure both of us about it. My mom isn’t a bad person, she’s just concerned about my future. And to be honest, I’m not really that interested in the typical “study, study, work for a company, and end up being a slave to it” kind of path.
Today, just a few hours ago, I went to her house again and she was in a really emotional state because her father called her informing her that he is in the process of finalizing a divorce with her mother and that her mother will be left in debt. This is something that has always affected her deeply, since her parents’ conflicts have been a constant source of stress for her. Once again, I had to stay with her and support her through it.
This thread is something I wrote because I’ve started seeing a different perspective on lookism, this time from a girl’s point of view. She has also told me other things about her life that I haven’t included here.
Right now, I’m also unsure about whether I should start helping her more directly, even on a physical or external level (appearance-related changes, habits, etc.), because I don’t want to fall into a “captain save a hoe” role where I feel responsible for fixing someone else’s life or problems. I guess I’m still trying to figure out where the line is between helping someone and overextending myself.
Pd: wtf bro I write a lot abt a single person, I see...
I just want to post a different type of thread I hope u all like this.I’ll try my best to contribute better content to this forum. Not just personal anecdotes, but things that are actually worth reading and discussing. I’ll see how this type of thread performs, and then experiment with other kinds of posts as well. Maybe things like I mentioned before, such as an indigenous looksmax guide, or other kinds of discussions about real problems and experiences.
I think I drifted a bit away from the original lookism focus and got more into personal stuff. I know most of you probably don’t really care about that, but I guess threads like this are better than the forum being filled only with “
ratemepls”, “cope methods”, already-answered questions, and constant shitposts. I hope you guys still find this somewhat interesting or at least enjoy reading it. This time I will accept the DNR. For a long time, she tried to hide the fact that she was insecure about her appearance. It wasn’t something she openly expressed.
She was never really someone who stayed in one stable group. In school, she would often switch between different groups during break time, trying to fit in wherever she could. From the outside, she always seemed a bit like the “nerdy” type, someone who didn’t naturally stand out socially, but looking back it also felt like she was constantly trying to find her place.
Her main insecurity was acne. She tends to focus heavily on that one aspect of her appearance. It feels like her self-perception is heavily centered on a single feature rather than how her overall appearance actually comes together.
There were also moments where I kind of “dug deeper” into her mindset and personality. That’s when I started realizing there was more insecurity than she ever showed openly.
Eventually, she did open up about it. One day she told me something like: “I know you’re lying when you call me pretty… can’t you see my face?” That moment honestly changed how I understood what she was going through.
She ended up breaking down emotionally, and I had to stay with her and help her calm down. I tried to make her understand that one insecurity doesn’t define how someone looks as a whole or who she is.
After I managed to calm her down and get things back to normal, things were peaceful again. However, shortly after, her dad called her about her admission exam grades for university, and she became overwhelmed emotionally again. I ended up staying with her once more to help her through it, and I stayed until very late at night. Eventually I had to head back home while it was already dark and not very safe, which is pretty common here. My mom got worried and ended up scolding me for coming back so late. She also doesn’t know that I’m still in a relationship. I told her that we had broken up because my mom doesn’t want me to have a girlfriend right now, since I’m very focused on my studies and she believes I have a bright future. She’s worried that a relationship could distract me or negatively affect that, and she used to constantly pressure both of us about it. My mom isn’t a bad person, she’s just concerned about my future. And to be honest, I’m not really that interested in the typical “study, study, work for a company, and end up being a slave to it” kind of path.
Today, just a few hours ago, I went to her house again and she was in a really emotional state because her father called her informing her that he is in the process of finalizing a divorce with her mother and that her mother will be left in debt. This is something that has always affected her deeply, since her parents’ conflicts have been a constant source of stress for her. Once again, I had to stay with her and support her through it.
This thread is something I wrote because I’ve started seeing a different perspective on lookism, this time from a girl’s point of view. She has also told me other things about her life that I haven’t included here.
Right now, I’m also unsure about whether I should start helping her more directly, even on a physical or external level (appearance-related changes, habits, etc.), because I don’t want to fall into a “captain save a hoe” role where I feel responsible for fixing someone else’s life or problems. I guess I’m still trying to figure out where the line is between helping someone and overextending myself.
Pd: wtf bro I write a lot abt a single person, I see...
I just want to post a different type of thread I hope u all like this.I’ll try my best to contribute better content to this forum. Not just personal anecdotes, but things that are actually worth reading and discussing. I’ll see how this type of thread performs, and then experiment with other kinds of posts as well. Maybe things like I mentioned before, such as an indigenous looksmax guide, or other kinds of discussions about real problems and experiences.
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