[Doubted]

I hate the way i act around people. Every time i make "friends" with someone I automatically become annoying as shit because i jester constantly and don't shut up.

I follow them around like i am some miserable dog and always act weird, and might even say something offensive sometimes that makes me look even more weird. Seriously, how do people do it to be normal? I have no friends, and i'm considered the weird annoying kid by many. And if I somehow do make friends, they always have someone better than me and treat me as a floater friend they talk to when they've got no one to conversate with, or are just bored.

And when i am alone, that fake annoying persona disappears, and i am left thinking about the things I said throughout the day, or the way i acted. The worst part is that there's this one extremely chopped guy who is social (but obviously fake) who likes putting me down or fucking ignoring me to feel better about himself. And it always works for him. He has many friends and everyone seems to like him. Is the key to success really being NT and having self respect? I'd appreciate if you gave me advice on how to mask.

 

[EritreansMog]

I hate the way i act around people. Every time i make "friends" with someone I automatically become annoying as shit because i jester constantly and don't shut up.

I follow them around like i am some miserable dog and always act weird, and might even say something offensive sometimes that makes me look even more weird. Seriously, how do people do it to be normal? I have no friends, and i'm considered the weird annoying kid by many. And if I somehow do make friends, they always have someone better than me and treat me as a floater friend they talk to when they've got no one to conversate with, or are just bored.

And when i am alone, that fake annoying persona disappears, and i am left thinking about the things I said throughout the day, or the way i acted. The worst part is that there's this one extremely chopped guy who is social (but obviously fake) who likes putting me down or fucking ignoring me to feel better about himself. And it always works for him. He has many friends and everyone seems to like him. Is the key to success really being NT and having self respect? I'd appreciate if you gave me advice on how to mask.

stop saying offensive shit, like fucking duh no one likes you.

 

[Mandy]

I can relate, but I started lacking irl friends kind of because my only friends left my school last year. And to be honest there is no bouncing back to the social position you were at your peak,if you ever had one, simply because your simple mistake or anything similar would ruin reputation. Once everyone around you is basically hurled together in separate groups and no starts talking to often then the anchor is set and the chance of getting picked up would reduce. They’ve already made packs and the interest of interrogating you in is hard, unless you’re a new person to a setting like for example a class then people would be interested in the new sight simply because it’s something not familiar and first impression is key.

 

[Mandy]

I can relate, but I started lacking irl friends kind of because my only friends left my school last year. And to be honest there is no bouncing back to the social position you were at your peak,if you ever had one, simply because your simple mistake or anything similar would ruin reputation. Once everyone around you is basically hurled together in separate groups and no starts talking to often then the anchor is set and the chance of getting picked up would reduce. They’ve already made packs and the interest of interrogating you in is hard, unless you’re a new person to a setting like for example a class then people would be interested in the new sight simply because it’s something not familiar and first impression is key.

But of course,if you act weird the “first impression” that gives off bad impressions but what I’m saying is if you’re in the same setting for months or years now then it would be harder to regulate social status amongst them.

 

[Doubted]

I can relate, but I started lacking irl friends kind of because my only friends left my school last year. And to be honest there is no bouncing back to the social position you were at your peak,if you ever had one, simply because your simple mistake or anything similar would ruin reputation. Once everyone around you is basically hurled together in separate groups and no starts talking to often then the anchor is set and the chance of getting picked up would reduce. They’ve already made packs and the interest of interrogating you in is hard, unless you’re a new person to a setting like for example a class then people would be interested in the new sight simply because it’s something not familiar and first impression is key.

I actually did have a peak. I had a friend group and everything. Good times. And also yeah you're completely right. I'm stuck in that same class with the same people until i graduate from school, so i believe it's over, for now.

 

[EritreansMog]

I actually did have a peak. I had a friend group and everything. Good times. And also yeah you're completely right. I'm stuck in that same class with the same people until i graduate from school, so i believe it's over, for now.

if u peaked anytime before 25 it's over

 

[Mandy]

I actually did have a peak. I had a friend group and everything. Good times. And also yeah you're completely right. I'm stuck in that same class with the same people until i graduate from school, so i believe it's over, for now.

I can relate,I also used to have a friend group and was quite talked-to a lot and generally had friends and now I sit alone like a retard. But yeah unless you try glazing some people around you maybe that would give interest but if they think you are as subconsciously or well aware weird and they don’t talk with you on the regular already then it would be difficult.

 

[Doubted]

if u peaked anytime before 25 it's over

The thing is that my "peak" was just me acting slightly hyperactive, being loud and acting like an alpha male or some shit, (which surprisingly worked) and as soon as I gave up on that act i became hated on and friendless once again JFL. Wasn't even a long time ago

 

[EritreansMog]

The thing is that my "peak" was just me acting slightly hyperactive, being loud and acting like an alpha male or some shit, (which surprisingly worked) and as soon as I gave up on that act i became hated on and friendless once again JFL. Wasn't even a long time ago

ur not naturally loud lol?

 

[Doubted]

ur not naturally loud lol?

I'm not. I'm a quiet and discreet person. Why?

 

[Godveil Heir]

Because you're in a weird echo chamber called "Blackpill"
which glorifies hedonism and socialization far more than the mainstream.
It also promotes the typical idea of "muh Chad has more friends, and the incel is a friendless loser."

Normies are fine with not having a strong friend group and don’t think about it when they're socializing.
You attach too much value to it and become desperate for their validation, while others are fine with losing friends because a normie mind sees friends as a useless waste of time instead of the ultimate sign of self-worth.

Unless you are genuinely neurodivergent (diagnosed with autism), and not just struggling with poor social skills caused by spending too much time online, as some people suggest here, you can easily fit in with the normies and have a decent social life. You just need to interact with them more and tolerate the initial feeling of social inadequacy, which will last at most a few months. You can use some medical assistance like alprazolam, SSRIs, ecstasy, etc. to get through it.
Afterward, it will come naturally.
Humans are wired to socialize, it's not some rare talent.


hope this helps

 

[VelocityAnt¹]

I actually did have a peak. I had a friend group and everything. Good times. And also yeah you're completely right. I'm stuck in that same class with the same people until i graduate from school, so i believe it's over, for now.

Over, stop to larp NT and do whatever feels good+positive in the long run. Continuing to larp will just make u tired asf if you're ND.
Obviously you can better what's around the "ND" part like social anxiety and how u apprehend ppl, life and all that to make u better and maybe have some meaningful relationships.
Used to be chill with everyone in my class and other class (even girls). They weren't truly friends, they did appreciate me but guess what, when I started to ditch school, only one of them try to help me or get news of me out of 20+ppl.
No true bond, only one kinda.

 

[Doubted]

Over, stop to larp NT and do whatever feels good+positive in the long run. Continuing to larp will just make u tired asf if you're ND.
Obviously you can better what's around the "ND" part like social anxiety and how u apprehend ppl, life and all that to make u better.
Used to be chill with everyone in my class and other class (even girls). They weren't truly friends, they did appreciate me but guess what, when I started to ditch school, only one of them try to help me or get news of me out of 20+ppl.
No true bond, only one kinda.

I am not neuro divergent tho. The way i am now is mostly because of how i've adapted to my surroundings.

 

[VelocityAnt¹]

Over, stop to larp NT and do whatever feels good+positive in the long run. Continuing to larp will just make u tired asf if you're ND.
Obviously you can better what's around the "ND" part like social anxiety and how u apprehend ppl, life and all that to make u better and maybe have some meaningful relationships.
Used to be chill with everyone in my class and other class (even girls). They weren't truly friends, they did appreciate me but guess what, when I started to ditch school, only one of them try to help me or get news of me out of 20+ppl.
No true bond, only one kinda.

It comes and go, as they're kinda just passing by, no problem with being chill with them. Prolly better to have them just to develop some social skills and not feel alone.

 

[Somasena Magha]

Hello reddit!, I am a vantabluepilled krishna devotee, and this is my story. I alwyas end up making myself look like a miserable hound and jester in front others. Pls help,and no I won't accept that I am indeed non NT. Please give the snake covered in oil, salesman.

 

[Doubted]

I'm not. I'm a quiet and discreet person. Why?

Okay i lied there a bit. Until when i 9, I was a really social person. Or at least with adults. People my age don't like me tho.

 

[Doubted]

Okay i lied there a bit. Until when i 9, I was a really social person. Or at least with adults. People my age don't like me tho.

I kinda forgot what "NT" meant for a sec, i actually have always loved to conversate with people and I am naturally NT lmao. I just hate to feel rejected by others and that Is the reason why I've became more quiet lately.

 

[Doubted]

I kinda forgot what "NT" meant for a sec, i actually have always loved to conversate with people and I am naturally NT lmao. I just hate to feel rejected by others and that Is the reason why I've became more quiet lately.

Oh yeah cause did I mention i am awkward asf?