3pfl
16 y/o 185 cm mmtn
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I'm a 5'3 ftm transgender man. I was happy when I transitioned, I liked myself, having a male chest after breast surgery, being able to grow a beard. But I never knew how bad heightism was in this society. When I lived my life as a woman, I wasn't really aware of heightism men face to be honest.
When I was a woman, I felt uncomfortable in my own body. Now that I’ve transitioned, it’s society who makes me feel uncomfortable of my body. Sure now they see a man, but in their minds, they see a man who's not a real man. From feeling powerless and smaller compared to others of my gender, to some people wanting to treat me as a punching bag of a friend group. People who I barely just met will make rude comments or jokes about my size, and I know if I respond with a similar comment about their weight (which I would never do anyways because I don't like body shaming of any kind) I know I would be considered an asshole, but yet it's ok for people to make fun of mens height.
Dating was going to be hard for me anyways since I'm a man with no penis, but when I used to be a lesbian I had more dating options, but now that I'm a guy, plenty of women will reject me just for my height, before I even get a chance to tell them I'm trans.
The worst past is that height body shaming, or the hurdles I have to face for my height just simply isn't taken as seriously, so it feels I'm battling something all alone. Also some people don't have sympathy for my issue until they find out I am transgender, but at that point it's not true sympathy, they are just fake virtue signaling to seem woke. They tell us to be more confident, but there are some people who hate ugly or short people with confidence for whatever reason. They see it as a person who doesn't know their rightful place. As a matter of fact, on example I can give you is I became friends with this girl through one of my gay friends, and today she knows I'm transgender, but not at that time, but she was telling me about the time she met me for the first time, and she didn't know I was transgender at that time. First time she met me was the time I completed my transition to being passable and when I felt my most confident. First of all I never acted cocky, or rude, I was just confident and happy with myself.
She admitted to me that the first time she met me, she was actually annoyed at me because she thought I was being too confident for my size, like I wasn't tall enough to act as confident as I was, and she thought I had a Napoleon Complex, but she says she felt bad when she found out I was transgender because now she realizes that I wasn't trying to overcompensate for being short, that I was trying to be confident after dealing with life as a transgender.
Then I asked her, "So if I wasn't a transgender man, but just a short cis man, would you still think I have a complex?" And she said if I was a short cis man, she would still think I had a complex, because it's different. I was offended at this point because it sounded like fake virtue signaling. She didn't develop sympathy for short guys, she just saw things differently because I'm suddenly part of her liberal woke tribe being a transgender man. I confronted her telling her "I thought everyone should love themselves for who they are, but apparently short guys aren't allowed to be confident or there needs to be a limit in how confident they feel? If you didn't know what was between my legs, I would just be another Napoleon to you" and my gay friend pretty much backed me up calling her a culture vulture.
I don't know what to do. Is it worth feeling more comfortable in my body if society is going out of it's way to tell me I'm not a real man for my size? At least when I was living in my past body, society didn't treat me like shit. They respected me more as a tom boy woman, than me now as a fully transitioned man. I'm not trying to discourage anyone from transitioning, but I guess I'm just venting. I just feel alone.
SERIOUSLY, WHAT KIND OF RETARD IS GONNA WANT TO TRANSITION FROM A 5'3 WOMAN LIVING LIFE ON EASY MODE TO A 5'3 COCKLESS MAN (TURBOMANLET EVEN IN ASIA PROBABLY). FUCKING OVER. THIS BITCH HAS PROBABLY ROPED BY NOW LMFAO
I'm starting to regret transitioning. I like being a man, but I can't take heightism from society.
I'm a 5'3 ftm transgender man. I was happy when I transitioned, I liked myself, having a male chest after breast surgery, being able to grow a beard. But I never knew how bad heightism was in this society. When I lived my life as a woman, I wasn't really aware of heightism men face to be honest.
When I was a woman, I felt uncomfortable in my own body. Now that I’ve transitioned, it’s society who makes me feel uncomfortable of my body. Sure now they see a man, but in their minds, they see a man who's not a real man. From feeling powerless and smaller compared to others of my gender, to some people wanting to treat me as a punching bag of a friend group. People who I barely just met will make rude comments or jokes about my size, and I know if I respond with a similar comment about their weight (which I would never do anyways because I don't like body shaming of any kind) I know I would be considered an asshole, but yet it's ok for people to make fun of mens height.
Dating was going to be hard for me anyways since I'm a man with no penis, but when I used to be a lesbian I had more dating options, but now that I'm a guy, plenty of women will reject me just for my height, before I even get a chance to tell them I'm trans.
The worst past is that height body shaming, or the hurdles I have to face for my height just simply isn't taken as seriously, so it feels I'm battling something all alone. Also some people don't have sympathy for my issue until they find out I am transgender, but at that point it's not true sympathy, they are just fake virtue signaling to seem woke. They tell us to be more confident, but there are some people who hate ugly or short people with confidence for whatever reason. They see it as a person who doesn't know their rightful place. As a matter of fact, on example I can give you is I became friends with this girl through one of my gay friends, and today she knows I'm transgender, but not at that time, but she was telling me about the time she met me for the first time, and she didn't know I was transgender at that time. First time she met me was the time I completed my transition to being passable and when I felt my most confident. First of all I never acted cocky, or rude, I was just confident and happy with myself.
She admitted to me that the first time she met me, she was actually annoyed at me because she thought I was being too confident for my size, like I wasn't tall enough to act as confident as I was, and she thought I had a Napoleon Complex, but she says she felt bad when she found out I was transgender because now she realizes that I wasn't trying to overcompensate for being short, that I was trying to be confident after dealing with life as a transgender.
Then I asked her, "So if I wasn't a transgender man, but just a short cis man, would you still think I have a complex?" And she said if I was a short cis man, she would still think I had a complex, because it's different. I was offended at this point because it sounded like fake virtue signaling. She didn't develop sympathy for short guys, she just saw things differently because I'm suddenly part of her liberal woke tribe being a transgender man. I confronted her telling her "I thought everyone should love themselves for who they are, but apparently short guys aren't allowed to be confident or there needs to be a limit in how confident they feel? If you didn't know what was between my legs, I would just be another Napoleon to you" and my gay friend pretty much backed me up calling her a culture vulture.
I don't know what to do. Is it worth feeling more comfortable in my body if society is going out of it's way to tell me I'm not a real man for my size? At least when I was living in my past body, society didn't treat me like shit. They respected me more as a tom boy woman, than me now as a fully transitioned man. I'm not trying to discourage anyone from transitioning, but I guess I'm just venting. I just feel alone.

