Honorarynigga
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Charisma isn’t magic. It’s just a multiplier. And like every multiplier, if the base is low, the result is still low. Looks come first, no debate. If your face hits, people forgive awkwardness, weird jokes, even straight-up stupidity. If your face doesn’t.. Well you can't be chud and awkward
charisma won’t turn a 4 into a 9. It just helps you not waste whatever you already have
And judging by how people act here, yeah, half of you desperately need it. Being bitter and socially off isn’t the bestt pussy magnet you can have (being rough, cold and rude can work)
Basic formula:
Be somewhat open to life
Have your shit together
Talk to people without acting like it’s a hostage situation
Don’t be a prick for no reason
Keep your emotions under control
Speak like a normal human being
1. Openness (aka don’t live like a shut-in)
If your life is just your room, your phone, and your thoughts, you’re going to be boring. Not deep, not mysterious. Just boring.
Simple fix: go outside and do random stuff.
New street, random store, weird event, doesn’t matter.
If your life has zero variety, your conversations will too.
2. Conscientiousness (aka stop being messy and lost)
People are drawn to those who look like they know what they’re doing.
You don’t need to be perfect, just not chaotic.
Have routines so you’re not a walking mess
Have goals so you don’t sound lost
Be consistent so people can rely on you (be that plumber that smash some wife in work hours)
3. Extroversion (forced, if necessary)
If you’re socially awkward, there’s no secret trick. You’re just under-trained.
You fix it the same way you fix anything else: reps.
Talk to people. A lot. Even when it’s awkward.
Ask random questions, make small talk, whatever.
You’ll be bad at first. That’s the point.
4. Agreeableness (you have to be really handsome to skip this one)
You don’t need to be fake nice. But if your whole personality is sarcasm, negativity, or acting above everyone, people will drop you fast.
Basic stuff:
Be helpful when it’s easy
Give real compliments, not cringe ones
Actually listen instead of waiting to talk
Don’t interrupt like a clown
(only do this with women, with men you want to assert your superiority)
5. Low neuroticism (stop spiraling in public)
If you’re anxious, angry, insecure, or constantly negative, people pick up on it instantly.
No one wants to be around a walking stress signal.
You don’t need to become a monk, just:
Don’t complain 24/7
Don’t snap at people for no reason
Don’t act unstable
Be the chill one.
6. Communication (this is where most of you fail)
You can have decent thoughts and still sound like an idiot if you can’t express them.
Common problems:
Talking too fast
Mumbling
Saying a lot without saying anything
Making people go “what?” every 10 seconds
Fix it like training anything else:
Slow down your speech
Practice speaking clearly (yes, like a kid learning again)
Pay attention to how people react when you talk
If you’re good-looking and socially awkward, you’re wasting your advantage. Someone just as good-looking but normal will replace you easily.
If you’re average, charisma helps you squeeze more out of your position. Not miracles, just better outcomes.
And outside dating, this stuff matters even more. Jobs, friendships, opportunities. People help people they like. It’s that simple
If you read thanks if not go fuck yourself slob faggot I'll go to sleep gn
charisma won’t turn a 4 into a 9. It just helps you not waste whatever you already have
And judging by how people act here, yeah, half of you desperately need it. Being bitter and socially off isn’t the bestt pussy magnet you can have (being rough, cold and rude can work)
Basic formula:
Be somewhat open to life
Have your shit together
Talk to people without acting like it’s a hostage situation
Don’t be a prick for no reason
Keep your emotions under control
Speak like a normal human being
1. Openness (aka don’t live like a shut-in)
If your life is just your room, your phone, and your thoughts, you’re going to be boring. Not deep, not mysterious. Just boring.
Simple fix: go outside and do random stuff.
New street, random store, weird event, doesn’t matter.
If your life has zero variety, your conversations will too.
2. Conscientiousness (aka stop being messy and lost)
People are drawn to those who look like they know what they’re doing.
You don’t need to be perfect, just not chaotic.
Have routines so you’re not a walking mess
Have goals so you don’t sound lost
Be consistent so people can rely on you (be that plumber that smash some wife in work hours)
3. Extroversion (forced, if necessary)
If you’re socially awkward, there’s no secret trick. You’re just under-trained.
You fix it the same way you fix anything else: reps.
Talk to people. A lot. Even when it’s awkward.
Ask random questions, make small talk, whatever.
You’ll be bad at first. That’s the point.
4. Agreeableness (you have to be really handsome to skip this one)
You don’t need to be fake nice. But if your whole personality is sarcasm, negativity, or acting above everyone, people will drop you fast.
Basic stuff:
Be helpful when it’s easy
Give real compliments, not cringe ones
Actually listen instead of waiting to talk
Don’t interrupt like a clown
(only do this with women, with men you want to assert your superiority)
5. Low neuroticism (stop spiraling in public)
If you’re anxious, angry, insecure, or constantly negative, people pick up on it instantly.
No one wants to be around a walking stress signal.
You don’t need to become a monk, just:
Don’t complain 24/7
Don’t snap at people for no reason
Don’t act unstable
Be the chill one.
6. Communication (this is where most of you fail)
You can have decent thoughts and still sound like an idiot if you can’t express them.
Common problems:
Talking too fast
Mumbling
Saying a lot without saying anything
Making people go “what?” every 10 seconds
Fix it like training anything else:
Slow down your speech
Practice speaking clearly (yes, like a kid learning again)
Pay attention to how people react when you talk
If you’re good-looking and socially awkward, you’re wasting your advantage. Someone just as good-looking but normal will replace you easily.
If you’re average, charisma helps you squeeze more out of your position. Not miracles, just better outcomes.
And outside dating, this stuff matters even more. Jobs, friendships, opportunities. People help people they like. It’s that simple
If you read thanks if not go fuck yourself slob faggot I'll go to sleep gn
