Ash2Flame
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I know that looks matter a lot in dating, but I feel like I’ve been relying on my appearance too much. Because of that, I struggle to build a deep, meaningful connection with a girl. I’ve tried really hard to find advice about dating that isn’t just some normie bluepilled bs.
Someday, I want to marry a girl and feel deeply connected to her. Before I learned about all these ideas around bp and dating dynamics, I felt like I could connect more naturally. Now it feels different. My relationships seem to revolve mostly around looks, and I don’t know if dating is truly just about SMV, or if I was simply unaware of that before.
Now that I see everything through that lens, I can’t unsee it. I’m not sure whether deep emotional connection in dating is real, or if I’ve just become too superficial to let it develop.
Someday, I want to marry a girl and feel deeply connected to her. Before I learned about all these ideas around bp and dating dynamics, I felt like I could connect more naturally. Now it feels different. My relationships seem to revolve mostly around looks, and I don’t know if dating is truly just about SMV, or if I was simply unaware of that before.
Now that I see everything through that lens, I can’t unsee it. I’m not sure whether deep emotional connection in dating is real, or if I’ve just become too superficial to let it develop.

