[angelo]

I've been really close with this one girl for over 3 years. I've always liked her, and we used to date when we were younger (Doesn't mean much to her). We've been speaking since last Saturday about our friendship and everything about us. Only today did she tell me she feels there is no mutual connection, nothing keeping us as friends, nor as more. According to her, I'm a brick wall, despite the countless conversations and times we've had fun together; she acts as if I'm nothing. I'm not super good looking, probably not even lhtn, but I'd say I'm pretty average, maybe a bit above average facially. I'm 6'0 with decent clavicle spacing and a likeable personality (I think), what should I do realistically? It feels like me, and her is a lost cause, but I've always loved her, and I have nobody to talk to, and honestly, this may be jfl for some of you guys, but I don't know. I only love her, and I want her to like me back. I go against all my own ideas just for her. That's all :/

 

[vic.mark]

I've been really close with this one girl for over 3 years. I've always liked her, and we used to date when we were younger (Doesn't mean much to her). We've been speaking since last Saturday about our friendship and everything about us. Only today did she tell me she feels there is no mutual connection, nothing keeping us as friends, nor as more. According to her, I'm a brick wall, despite the countless conversations and times we've had fun together; she acts as if I'm nothing. I'm not super good looking, probably not even lhtn, but I'd say I'm pretty average, maybe a bit above average facially. I'm 6'0 with decent clavicle spacing and a likeable personality (I think), what should I do realistically? It feels like me, and her is a lost cause, but I've always loved her, and I have nobody to talk to, and honestly, this may be jfl for some of you guys, but I don't know. I only love her, and I want her to like me back. I go against all my own ideas just for her. That's all :/

been through the same shit, in love with a girl you get along just for her to reject you so i know how it feels. she didn’t call me a brick wall tho idk about that, just try to be more sociable, crack more jokes and jester

 

[ArimaWillAscend]

I've been really close with this one girl for over 3 years. I've always liked her, and we used to date when we were younger (Doesn't mean much to her). We've been speaking since last Saturday about our friendship and everything about us. Only today did she tell me she feels there is no mutual connection, nothing keeping us as friends, nor as more. According to her, I'm a brick wall, despite the countless conversations and times we've had fun together; she acts as if I'm nothing. I'm not super good looking, probably not even lhtn, but I'd say I'm pretty average, maybe a bit above average facially. I'm 6'0 with decent clavicle spacing and a likeable personality (I think), what should I do realistically? It feels like me, and her is a lost cause, but I've always loved her, and I have nobody to talk to, and honestly, this may be jfl for some of you guys, but I don't know. I only love her, and I want her to like me back. I go against all my own ideas just for her. That's all :/

accept that you wont get with her why fucking cope when you can rope

 

[Determinism]

I've been in the same boat as you, just not with me liking the girl. The sooner you can find new friends, the better because then you can drop the one girl, sure feelings play a part in this; but in the long run, you'll be happy you dropped her as soon as you could.

DMs are open if you need any advice

 

[VelocityAnt¹]

100% some guy or some girls are reinforcing/instigating this idea to her. Change bih bhai or get with others girls, maybe she'll feel jealous/curious lol.

 

[angelo]

100% some guy or some girls are reinforcing/instigating this idea to her. Change bih bhai or get with others girls, maybe she'll feel jealous/curious lol.

I'm almost 100% sure it's her friends, her friends haven't changed in years and having been in their "circle" and groupchats 2 years ago when we dated, I know exactly how they act. They dictate each others lives and it's absurd, there is no sense of individuality when she talks to them, when we speak one on one though it's different.

 

[VelocityAnt¹]

I'm almost 100% sure it's her friends, her friends haven't changed in years and having been in their "circle" and groupchats 2 years ago when we dated, I know exactly how they act. They dictate each others lives and it's absurd, there is no sense of individuality when she talks to them, when we speak one on one though it's different.

Change girl bruh, or make her change but if she didn't do it before then it's over bhai.

 

[angelo]

I've been in the same boat as you, just not with me liking the girl. The sooner you can find new friends, the better because then you can drop the one girl, sure feelings play a part in this; but in the long run, you'll be happy you dropped her as soon as you could.

DMs are open if you need any advice

Cheers man, that's the biggest problem, honestly, it's just the feelings I have for her. I don't need her specifically, I just need somebody to be like her, I want a girl that's respectful and kind like her; it's just so rare with this modernist anti-moral behaviour girls follow from TikTok and social medias.

 

[Determinism]

Cheers man, that's the biggest problem, honestly, it's just the feelings I have for her. I don't need her specifically, I just need somebody to be like her, I want a girl that's respectful and kind like her; it's just so rare with this modernist anti-moral behaviour girls follow from TikTok and social medias.

The first thing I suggest you do, is you block her on ALL apps. TikTok, Instagram, Snapchat, even fucking Facebook.

And block her number, this is the first step to losing the feelings you have for her.

 

[overfuelforcurries]

I've been really close with this one girl for over 3 years. I've always liked her, and we used to date when we were younger (Doesn't mean much to her). We've been speaking since last Saturday about our friendship and everything about us. Only today did she tell me she feels there is no mutual connection, nothing keeping us as friends, nor as more. According to her, I'm a brick wall, despite the countless conversations and times we've had fun together; she acts as if I'm nothing. I'm not super good looking, probably not even lhtn, but I'd say I'm pretty average, maybe a bit above average facially. I'm 6'0 with decent clavicle spacing and a likeable personality (I think), what should I do realistically? It feels like me, and her is a lost cause, but I've always loved her, and I have nobody to talk to, and honestly, this may be jfl for some of you guys, but I don't know. I only love her, and I want her to like me back. I go against all my own ideas just for her. That's all :/

similar situation with me bro

 

[ltbslayer777]

I've been really close with this one girl for over 3 years. I've always liked her, and we used to date when we were younger (Doesn't mean much to her). We've been speaking since last Saturday about our friendship and everything about us. Only today did she tell me she feels there is no mutual connection, nothing keeping us as friends, nor as more. According to her, I'm a brick wall, despite the countless conversations and times we've had fun together; she acts as if I'm nothing. I'm not super good looking, probably not even lhtn, but I'd say I'm pretty average, maybe a bit above average facially. I'm 6'0 with decent clavicle spacing and a likeable personality (I think), what should I do realistically? It feels like me, and her is a lost cause, but I've always loved her, and I have nobody to talk to, and honestly, this may be jfl for some of you guys, but I don't know. I only love her, and I want her to like me back. I go against all my own ideas just for her. That's all :/

nothing you listed would magically change how she feels. attraction and connection aren’t spreadsheets. you can do everything right and still not be the person someone wants romantically. that doesn’t make you invisible or worthless, it just means she doesn’t feel it, and she’s been clear about that now.