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Let's imagine that you're talking to someone,you realize that their story isn't adding up when you try to connect the dots. However, you aren't sure whether they truly are saying the objective thing or they are LYING.

Today, we'll be discussing about COGNITIVE LOAD by Aldert Vrij, and how his research answers our question.

Vrij’s research showed that lying is mentally harder than telling the truth.
When people lie, their brain handles more load — creating the story, hiding the truth, and staying consistent.
That extra effort leaks out through behaviour.

The MANEUVER-----

His Cognitive Load Detection method increases mental pressure to expose
inconsistencies:

1) Ask them to repeat the story in reverse.
What to do: “Tell me what happened, but start from the end.”
Example: If they said “I went to the shop met a friend came home,” ask them to go backward.

Why it works: Truth is stored as memory
easy to reverse. Lies are created
harder to reconstruct.

2) Add an unexpected question while they talk-

Ask something they didn’t prepare for.
Why it works: Liars remember main events, not random details.

Overall, we could say that liars tend to say the main points of the story wherein they have "memorized" what to say and what not to say.

Use this tactics whenever you feel like someone is telling BS.

Thank you for reading.

 

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Did read 6/10 not your best
 

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I did use this against some guys and I got them shivering 🥶 🥶
Both are effective, but if we compare them, then the second fact is better to use as it gives the other person a "shock" of some sort
 

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Both are effective, but if we compare them, then the second fact is better to use as it gives the other person a "shock" of some sort
We human don't give a fuck about our surroundings if it's a shit environment, thus, we don't remember much, and Incase for liars, when you you question them,they'll hesitate for a moment-stuttering and messing up what they had planned
 

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Omg foidslayer is here
 

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I usually just get closer to them and gently trace their arm while listening. Then I ask for the real truth in a skeptical tone, that usually gets them a little defensive. I the trace my hand from their arm to the back of their head and start massaging their hair and gently stroking their hair. I comfort them and tell them that they can tell me and that it's all going to be okay. Then, they tell me the truth, I then pull them into a hug and kiss the top of their head while tracing lazy circles on their back
 

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I usually just get closer to them and gently trace their arm while listening. Then I ask for the real truth in a skeptical tone, that usually gets them a little defensive. I the trace my hand from their arm to the back of their head and start massaging their hair and gently stroking their hair. I comfort them and tell them that they can tell me and that it's all going to be okay. Then, they tell me the truth, I then pull them into a hug and kiss the top of their head while tracing lazy circles on their back
READ EVERY SINGLE MOLECULE
 

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I usually just get closer to them and gently trace their arm while listening. Then I ask for the real truth in a skeptical tone, that usually gets them a little defensive. I the trace my hand from their arm to the back of their head and start massaging their hair and gently stroking their hair. I comfort them and tell them that they can tell me and that it's all going to be okay. Then, they tell me the truth, I then pull them into a hug and kiss the top of their head while tracing lazy circles on their back
You a bitch nigga you ain’t touching anyone’s arm
 

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Let's imagine that you're talking to someone,you realize that their story isn't adding up when you try to connect the dots. However, you aren't sure whether they truly are saying the objective thing or they are LYING.

Today, we'll be discussing about COGNITIVE LOAD by Aldert Vrij, and how his research answers our question.

Vrij’s research showed that lying is mentally harder than telling the truth.
When people lie, their brain handles more load — creating the story, hiding the truth, and staying consistent.
That extra effort leaks out through behaviour.

The MANEUVER-----

His Cognitive Load Detection method increases mental pressure to expose
inconsistencies:

1) Ask them to repeat the story in reverse.
What to do: “Tell me what happened, but start from the end.”
Example: If they said “I went to the shop met a friend came home,” ask them to go backward.

Why it works: Truth is stored as memory
easy to reverse. Lies are created
harder to reconstruct.

2) Add an unexpected question while they talk-

Ask something they didn’t prepare for.
Why it works: Liars remember main events, not random details.

Overall, we could say that liars tend to say the main points of the story wherein they have "memorized" what to say and what not to say.

Use this tactics whenever you feel like someone is telling BS.

Thank you for reading.

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2500 posts NIGGAS 😎😎
 

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Let's imagine that you're talking to someone,you realize that their story isn't adding up when you try to connect the dots. However, you aren't sure whether they truly are saying the objective thing or they are LYING.

Today, we'll be discussing about COGNITIVE LOAD by Aldert Vrij, and how his research answers our question.

Vrij’s research showed that lying is mentally harder than telling the truth.
When people lie, their brain handles more load — creating the story, hiding the truth, and staying consistent.
That extra effort leaks out through behaviour.

The MANEUVER-----

His Cognitive Load Detection method increases mental pressure to expose
inconsistencies:

1) Ask them to repeat the story in reverse.
What to do: “Tell me what happened, but start from the end.”
Example: If they said “I went to the shop met a friend came home,” ask them to go backward.

Why it works: Truth is stored as memory
easy to reverse. Lies are created
harder to reconstruct.

2) Add an unexpected question while they talk-

Ask something they didn’t prepare for.
Why it works: Liars remember main events, not random details.

Overall, we could say that liars tend to say the main points of the story wherein they have "memorized" what to say and what not to say.

Use this tactics whenever you feel like someone is telling BS.

Thank you for reading.

If you arent already born with the natural ability to be able to read people and pick up on their emotions, theres most likely nothing you can do.
 
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Bumming bump 😚
 

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If you arent already born with the natural ability to be able to read people and pick up on their emotions, theres most likely nothing you can do.
Godveil?
 

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If you arent already born with the natural ability to be able to read people and pick up on their emotions, theres most likely nothing you can do.
This sum shi that godveil be saying
 

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